23 vs. 19...should be clear, right?

[kdedeaux4]

Two scenarios asked of the Yi:
What if I send the explanation/apology message? 23.5.6 -->8
What if I don’t send a message at all? Hex 19 (unchanging)
In my use of the IC and reading through the various responses and experiences on hexagrams here, I’ve realized that I typically pose very intangible questions to IC. Thus, here, I made an attempt at a more concrete, less theoretical question. I was excited to investigate my responses… In addition, I can separate myself more from the question since this is not a hugely emotional or important matter to my life (important enough to ask, yes…but not feeling as critical as my usual questions are!)
Yet then, as I read up on 23.5.6-->8, I find myself wishing I had posed my question differently. The lines are interesting to me though and particularly so in this frame of reference I’ve asked. They just seem to contradict and confuse me as to the message.
23 points out that splitting apart will be the result if I send this message and I’m not certain under the circumstances that that’s actually a bad thing, possibly inevitable and I'm okay with that mostly… Line 5 actually sounds positive though… Paul O’Brien (Divination Foundation website) translates the lines as:

Line 5 :The forces of deception have undergone a sudden change, yielding to the superior force of truth. What is inferior will ultimately weaken; those who have waited for this outcome will be in position to take advantage of the situation when the tide turns. It is time to start rallying support for your position.
Line 6 :The period of disintegration comes to an end. The negative forces have spent themselves. Evil is not destructive of good alone -- it also destroys itself. And when evil decays, the compost it leaves behind nourishes the good seeds that remain. There is a fresh, new, invigorating energy in the air. Use it!

I’ve also read several personal experiences here with these lines (many really great thoughts actually...too many to quote ) .....most of which contradict though…some finding a favorable outcome, a renewal of sorts...others simply concluding with the “splitting apart” that is the main hex’s direct implication.
The flip side of the question and hexagram 19: Paul O’Brien says:

Spring is approaching. Good times ahead seem inevitable; there is vitality in the air. This is a most auspicious time. Like a snake emerging from hibernation, negative forces are only just beginning to stir, and can be effectively controlled. This is a time of hopeful progress, and must be used to best advantage. When approaching good fortune, conscientious work pays great dividends. A clear road lies ahead. In the spring, seeds that have been lying dormant are ready to bloom. Act now, for at some point this ripe opportunity for advancement will be challenged. No spring lasts forever. It’s always wise to stay alert and note the changing signs of the times. In doing so, preparing for less abundant times is a noble and fruitful effort. Make the most of it.

This would seem to be saying not sending a message will result in a pretty good situation as well? Hmmm.....

I would love to hear more thoughts on these readings!!
Namaste':bows:
~kd

 

[pocossin]

Using other versions, I think you should send the message, especially if you have taken the high road and appealed to ethical principles.

 

[ginnie]

Your reading of hex 23 is positive for sending the note of explanation/apology, and your hex 19 tells you that the spring of this opportunity will not last forever -- so it would be best to act.

 

[kdedeaux4]

Thank you both for your insight! I looked earlier yesterday and was so disappointed that no one had responded! So, I was especially happy and grateful to find your responses last night
I haven't crossed any ethical lines in this situation. Rather, I simply behaved inappropriately needy (from my personal perspective) to a new friend I had made. The truth is that I simply am more needy than usual; and certainly more needy than I'm comfortable being! The conundrum here for me was that to send a message at all borders on appearing even needier in a sense. I realized that I am just in a needier than usual place, let go of the hope for validation or excuse and sent the message. I haven't received a response yet and I very much doubt I will, but after letting go of any hope (need?) for a response back from this person, I feel good about the message I sent and accepted that their choice to respond or not has more to do with their personal journey and comfort zone than mine.
For clarity purposes, I'll update if an further development on this happens.
Thank you again for responding... I was very grateful to receive them
Namaste',
~kd