26.2.3.4.6 to 51 - Relationship fear

[tabitha]

Hi -

Thanks for reading; Briefly, I started seeing someone. He lives across the country, but this will be the second time this month we will be together. My instinct tells me he will hurt me - but I've been through this before: I get afraid in a new relationship and tell myself that I'll be heart broken, so it could be fear rather than instinct.

I understand that 26 is about fear - 51 about sex. But I don't know how to get through this fear and really allow myself to enjoy this. Please let me know if you can help me understand this.

 

[gene]

Tabitha

To say that 26 is about fear and 51 about sex is an oversimplification. Twenty six is also about pressure mounting up, and that appears to be what you are doing. Fear is stopping you from enjoying the moment. The pressure stops you from enjoying yourself, and the answer is in hexagram 51 where it is said that in spite of great pressure, "He does not let the sacrificial spoon fall." In other words, he enjoys the situation for the situation whatever else unfolds. He doesn't let the pressure spoil it for him. This reading is counseling you to enjoy the moment for the moment, with no undue expectations. Just have fun.

Gene

 

[tabitha]

Hi Gene -

Thanks, I'm still a little unfamiliar with these hexagrams... that makes a lot of sense.