26.3,5>61 really important

[dragona]

Hello again, I was left with the final go ahead for the offer on the apartment on sale.
Since it is not enough for what I want to buy, probably will not be enough for anything I would be happy with, but I am being pushed towards decision and this offer seems realistic enough, I casted:

Will I be able to cover my costs if going through with the deal? 26.3,5 into 61
I do not get hex 26 very often, but to me this reads as a potential, a worth while possession if one handles it skilfully. And to do so, one has to be clear headed, not emotional (which I was and scared of deciding, obviously)-what I red from Hillary`s book rung that way to me.

Some quick reaction to this would be very wellcommed, since I need to decide and it feels that the easiest thing would be to say yes but this is too tight a spot to be so cool about.
Thanks:bows:

 

[canislulu]

Hmmm. This seems like risky business to want confirmation of the interpretation of an important question from someone other than yourself. After all, the relating hexagram is "Inner Truth'' and it may be best to rely on your own. Never the less:

Here is my quick reaction to it. Hexagram 26 can be thought of as "Great Restraint". Are you being advised to restrain yourself and wait for a better offer or are you being advised to restrain your desires and be happy with what you will be able to purchase with the smaller amount you are being offered?

What is at risk from not accepting the offer? It sounds like you risk being unhappy with what you can purchase with the smaller than desired offer. Would this be an opportunity to learn how to be happy with what you can get no matter what? Or is it an opportunity to see what happens when you hold out for a better offer?

Your question is phrased as a "yes/no" question which isn't the best way to approach Yi. The question also sounds like it is hoping for a guarantee before acting, which may also not be the best question. Would a different type of question help you to decide?

 

[dragona]

Thank you, all valid points. I am disappointed with the circumstances very much. In reality for a decent place I need lots of luck or more money than it would be able to gain at the moment.
I need to relax a bit, but it is just impossible. Changed point of a view would help, something positive.
I did not even realize it was a yes/no question as I was thinking in terms what if, what to do, etc.
I kinda think YI gets connected to the basic issue anyway. Not sure how to ask more.
Aked before What if I wait (for other proposal)? 53.5,6 into 15

 

[Trojina]

I'd think you'd need to sit tight for the right price. that is what I think these answers show especially 53.5.6.

This is a big deal....it can affect you for a long time, as you know. So you owe it to yourself to get the best possible deal and not be hurried along by anyone.

Maybe it is better to be stressed now, for holding out, than to be in difficult circumstances for years to come through taking too low an offer.

The property is yours as much as hers. You aren't refusing to move you are just waiting for a sensible offer. She will be glad you waited too in the end because she will get more too.


Then again this doesn't sound too bad

Will I be able to cover my costs if going through with the deal? 26.3,5 into 61

I think that cast shows you have your head screwed on right...which means you are being sensible, you aren't being pushed about just by your feelings. I'd say it doesn't say about the costs it's just a vote of confidence in your decision making process. If this sounds okay to you It is okay. You can trust yourself.

 

[dragona]

I only have to confirm, not right to back up now as i worked for something to my favor as much as i could and still everyone to get what they wanted. I am not very happy about the way i handled it but something my sister said just made me snap quietly. If the circumstances were normal, of course one would wait till all offers gathered. I have other expenses to go with the purchase so not very promising and quite disappointed but i did not expect it to be easy. It is very alone time, still hard to think of past and what is human nature, family or not. Probably not making sense, just so tired.

This cast of 26.3,5,i have understood as a future reference of handling things yet you see it as a present state of mind. Hillary says one has to stop being emotional about the issue, one person said it is about changing the nature of things. (26.5) Loosen it up a bit perhaps. I tend to be very head strong when something i decide to be the right way.But then my Moon is in Cancer, so home is a place of safety for me and it needs to feel that way.

 

[canislulu]

What Trojina says, i.e.,

I'd think you'd need to sit tight for the right price

feels right to me. It was my initial sense of the reading but I wasn't brave enough to state it that way because I do not know the details of the situation. To me 26 implies "holding back, holding firm, and holding on." And your "inner truth" is that the offer doesn't feel right to you and you can trust the truth of that.

 

[dragona]

Except for that it was the best offer so far, especially for me-under conditions i offered. I was pressured so had to work something out until i still got some edge. It may go away so it could get worse before it gets better.

 

[precision grace]

If you were really thinking along the lines of 'how will I manage going forward if I sell now', then I think this cast is pointing to the fact that you know deep down the truth of the matter, and it seems like you may be all right somehow or other.

Well, I really hope that's what it's saying anyway! Good luck!!

 

[poised]

The art of the deal

I often go to the Pathfinder IChing for views on business situations. I don't know who this writer is, but he's often very helpful.

26. You now command significant resources, child. Don't waste them on unworthy or shortsighted goals. Also take care not to bargain away your advantage in negotiations. Many a person has lost the upper hand to artful negotiators, who themselves many times had nothing to offer but subterfuge.

26.3 Think ahead, and prepare for different contingencies. Act aggressively against your opposition.

26.5 Your preparations not only protect you well from adversity, but also bring unexpected side benefits.

Sounds like you are thinking ahead and preparing for contingencies (line 3). But how do you get to the "side benefits" in line 5?

You have had several, or at least a few offers, which indicates that there is a market for the apartment. Is it possible to negotiate a higher price with this buyer? Is your agent handling that properly? Are you making counter offers? Would the present offer be adequate if it didn't include the appliances and the chandelier or whatever else you could use in another place?….Just tossing in a few ideas.

I wish you the best for an excellent sale.

 

[pocossin]

I often go to the Pathfinder IChing for views on business situations. I don't know who this writer is, but he's often very helpful.

http://www.pathfinder.3rdmilieux.com/i-ching-tao-of-power-art-of-war-hexagram-50-balance.html

The site is copyrighted by J.R. Mooneyham, but from information under "about us" the text is a group effort.

 

[dragona]

Thanks everyone for your interpretations. Objective heads help even though I am not as cool as I would need to be as just tired of the whole game.
I do visit that page, it kind of coldly sums things up, I often find. Once did use interpretation for a line on this forum and it was ruled as not correct, so...
As I wrote the deal was of a private and friendly nature, the only certain one so far, agencies are disappointing, concentrated on certainty of profits.
To what extent will I be able to financially cover my wants and needs if i take this offer? 64.3,4,6 into 46
Hillary`s translation, line 3 word to word, line 4 somehow corresponds with 26.3 describing the one working on the issue and the last line is a warning not to spend too much, I think?
But it is quite too late for deep interpretations for me, so good night and:hugs:

 

[poised]

Thanks, pocossin. Agree with your take on pathfinder being a group effort. I had an email exchange with Mooneyham last year, he says they have no plans to publish pathfinder other than on their website. He does write fiction, titles available on that site. Not my kind of thing.

 

[dragona]

if anyone would like to comment on my last cast, i would like to read it.