Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
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Usilser, it's completely unrealistic to expect to find a guy who:
- Will provide you with lots of great sex
- AND he will want to settle down with you
- AND he will want children with you
- AND he will remain faithful and you'll live happily ever after
How many real families do you know who totally fit the above description? I know none. And I know a lot of people.
I do know a few more or less 'successful' families, who look perfect on the outside.
- In one of them, when the man occasionally had a bad temper the woman just shut up. Even when he cheated, she pretended to not notice. That's because she absolutely didn't want a divorce. He was otherwise a good man, fun to be with, and rich. He treated her very nicely for the majority of the time.
- In another, the man is a bit naive with a few negligible flaws. He is considerably older than her. The woman has the upper hand. He is not rich, but he's a totally faithful and devoted husband. He treats her amazingly all the time.
- In a third one, the man constantly cheats but the woman pretends to not notice. She's quite hypocritical about it, e.g. she'll say things like "oh he travels to X country often as he really wants to learn the language". Her husband is very rich, and he's almost always nice to her. She comes from a very conservative family where divorce is unthinkable.
It's totally different to aim for a guy who will provide you with lots of sex, and totally different to aim for a guy who is a family guy. You need a different mind-set, and you need different tacticts. As about your question on your other thread, if you will ever marry, that's a fatalistic question (fatalistic means no tactic and no action required on your part). Do you see the difference? We need to know what we're aiming for (money? sex? character? stability? prestige? etc.) and act accordingly. We can't aim for someone who has it ALL - that's impossible and please forget about it as it only happens in films and fairy tales.
My point is, you are approaching the whole issue with very confused thinking. On your very first thread on this forum, your ex had (again) broken up with you, and yet you wrote that you wanted to marry him. Please question yourself, and your inner attitude. Why on earth would you ever want to marry a guy who consistently treated you so badly, and showed you so many times that he's not marriage material?
I totally understand why you feel pessimistic after every break-up. The older we get, the more difficult it becomes to find a steady partner (or any partner). Please think things through, realistically and pragmatically.
what should I do to have the partner that I will have a family with?
39.5.6 > 52
Line 39.5 advises to ask good friends of yours if they know anyone suitable for you. OR, it could also mean that you already know someone (a friend) who would actually be a good husband. Line 39.6 perhaps shows that this will be the end of searching for you, and you will finally have stability (52).
What should I do to have the partner that I will have a family with? Hex 39, lines 5,6 Hex 52
You should find a way from the current impasse (39) to a stable relationship (52).Hexagram 52 is about stability & keeping together.
39.5: "In the midst of the greatest obstructions, friends come." Someone is willing to help you amidst these troubles. Be open to the help.
39.6: "Going afoot, coming with swelled head; auspicious; beneficial to see a great man." If you blindly jump into another relationship chances are you'll be disappointed again. So, meet a knowledgeable person who can guide you toward more stable & satisfying relationships. Sounds like a consultant.
Good Luck!
It's totally different to aim for a guy who will provide you with lots of sex, and totally different to aim for a guy who is a family guy. You need a different mind-set, and you need different tacticts.
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).