29.2.6 > 20 relationship situation

[squirrele]

Once again I asked on what the situation in my relationship is, as we seem to be having a breakthrough in communicating with each other. I pulled away, but he contacted me again and I am terrified and not sure as how to proceed. I got 29.2.6 > 20?

 

[ginnie]

You really are terrified. Why do you want a relationship with a man who terrifies you? That's not love. Fear is the opposite of love.

 

[gene]

squirrelle

I would recommend first of all that you take a good look at yourself. (hexagram 20) You need to find out where your fear is coming from and then deal with it. What is it you are afraid of? You pulled away because you were communicating better? Why would you do that? If you want this relationship? Your fears "bind you with cords and ropes, and shut you in between thorn-hedged walls." (line 6.)

Line two says that only small things may be done now. The question is, do you want this relationship or not? If you do, all you have to do is be nice. It is really that simply when it comes to men. They do not have all the expectations and demands for things to be a certain way that a woman does. It is really very simple. There is nothing to fear here, you only need to contemplate on what you want and then go for it.

Gene

 

[squirrele]

Thanks!
Ginnie, I am terrified of myself actually after realizing my attitude was not exactly as it should have been towards him.
Gene, yes I thinks the answer lies within myself and the reasons for my fear of commitment.