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rosetyler said:Kind words Bruce, thank you too.I try to stay present. I did in the relationship too. Maybe my struggle to do it with K mirrors my struggle to do it with myself- as some of the reason I love a narcissistic, artistic , magical thinker is because part of me is one too.
I feel like I'm in a limbo-not really believing we are over. Knowing that he can't give me the secure, calm, committed relationship that (some of me) will one day want.
Is whatever else there is enough? It's certainly compelling. But...as a friend said last night, now I've come up against the full force of my feelings (and pain) they'll act as a warning system in future and might not let me go into too much danger.
rosetyler said:Amour fatale...I like that tag.
Right on many counts Bruce. (Even down to me being a Gemini with Libra rising!).
A year ago I was writing in my journal that I needed to stop being so safe and that even if it was painful I needed to risk myself more at all levels in order to be able to experience feelings rather than cutting them off (my long time coping mechanism after growing up amid chaos).
However during the last year I kept getting very attached to situations in which I felt secure and loved within a structure. All temporary though; staying at a friend's house, a weekend away with a friend and a fatherly man she was working with, looking after a dog for three days at my house, staying with a kind, nurturing man for two days while working away. All situations I missed when I'd left- and made me realise an important part of me needed what they provided.
When K came to me in December offering a relationship, appearing to want stability, the part of me that knew I was drawn to that said "yes". How self-deceptive that all along, knowing about his past and inherent chaos, it was actually the chaos/feelings seeking part of me that was saying yes as well.
Maybe I still need to experience feelings more viscerally (as I now am) before being able to truly open myself to a situation that will balance these parts of me one day. Not K I don't think. Yet maybe he's part of the journey still.
Diagnosis; 24
His position; 28
Mine; 45
What should I do? 56.
How can I best move on to something/people that nourish me?
40,2,4 to 2.
Ah.
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).