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Looking at these hexagrams, improvement seems doubtful to me. But I'd appreciate any insight you can give.
The situation is between my partner and me. We had a very romantic relationship, but that changed to "just friends" because surgery six months ago caused him physical limitations. I told him I didn't care, but I lied. We have an exclusive but not committed relationship, spend as much time as we can together. I'm being the best friend I know how to be, but feel the lack of intimacy. He doesn't want to talk about it.
And yet, I want to feel optimistic.
, your reading says that you are after the wrong kind of person, the more you continue on this path, the more humiliating it'll become, and because of that you are screening off people that are good for you.
Also, as a general question - how can one be exclusive but not committed?? That's living in constant limbo. "I won't share you with anyone else, but I won't give you what you deserve either." What the... ? You deserve better than that.
Dear kkappa: Many thanks for your response. I appreciate your straightforward analysis.What exactly says I am with the wrong kind of person? You are correct about that, as we have too-large age difference and we come from very different parts of the forest.
But I did not see "wrong kind of person" in the hexagrams or lines and would like to know what you saw.
It has been a long slow slide toward the end.. the slide could continue for quite a while, as we are involved in a creative project together, club memberships, etc. He is increasingly self-absorbed, partly because he's exhausted from job pressures and partly because he's losing interest. I'm losing interest and sinking into depression too. I've "fired him" three times, but separation only lasts a few days and he's back.
Exclusive but not committed suits both of us. Age difference precludes marriage, we decided going in that we did want "just us" closeness while it lasted. It was really delightful until that surgery, and ever since, it's been increasingly difficult to be with him. It isn't that he won't, he can't. So I try to be a caring friend to this big strong good-lookng guy who has to face some very unpleasant facts. There's a remote possibility that over time, his problem might heal itself. Thus my original question...will situation improve?
In the end, it's not my fault, not my problem, and I cannot fix him.
Hehe, well nobody has every claimed that I sugarcoat anything so I'm glad that it didn't make you feel too defensive. I guess you could say that "the wrong kind of person" was more of an impression of the whole situation + personal experience with 31.3 and since the lines did not support your case either...
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If I were you, I'd actually ask "what can I do to improve my relationship with x?" In that case you will have no doubt what this is supposed to be - a make or break (for the fourth and final time).
I suspected that I may be all too familiar with your dilemma. So... 38, my personal favorite (sarcasm is my middle name!) is about two siblings with different agendas......
What's interesting, in this line again you've got the aspect of screening off people that can have a much better influence on you. Have you by any chance neglected your friends/family for this man? In any case, I'm pretty sure you are a wonderful woman and that no sincerely interested man should have to "overcome opposition to be with you". They would quite simply just be with you and give you their all.
Love and light to you,
K
Hi. Considering those hexagrams, the key word that stands out to me is 'sincerity.' If you are sincere, then even the Abysmal need not be..well....abysmal. ;-) However, sincerity is what is lacking in this situation, because you say yourself that you lied about being ok with it.
The judgement of both hexagrams is actually success, if you are sincere in all you do, but I get an 'artificial' vibe from the current nature of your relationship, and this seems to be the issue. Lots of luck xxx
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
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+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
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