31.4 to 39

[kapoork]

its been a year of separation. No indication of whether he wants to reunite. No indication of whether he wants to divorce. So i asked 'does he love me' and got 31.4 changing to 39

A few weeks back I had done a reading to find out if he will be coming back to me in the coming week and got a positive reading (I don't remember the exact numbers) but it was something I interpreted very positively. I keep praying for him to return and each time my hopes rise with a reading and then he doesn't come or show any sign of his willingness to I feel devastated. I know I'm stuck in a position which I am afraid to get out of. I don't know why I still love him when I don't see any positive signs on his part. In desperation I asked the above question - again the reading to me seems so positive - that he does and there is only a little obstacle in the way that is making him keep to himself.

Is there any way I can really truely see the real picture with IChing's help - can it give me a clear answer or am I just seeking all the wrong answers?

 

[pocossin]

Is there any way I can really truly see the real picture with IChing's help - can it give me a clear answer or am I just seeking all the wrong answers?

The real picture is the actual situation. We suffer because we overlook critical elements. Using the I Ching can help us become more aware, but the ultimate focus has to be on the actual situation. If there are no positive signs in the situation, then no matter the casting, the situation is inauspicious. That is my opinion.

 

[kapoork]

I asked Yi how would things be if i ask him about the relationship (i wish to ask him if he wants to reunite or end it - so that there is a direction to move towards instead of staying in a situation which is getting me no-where or so it seems)

I got 2.5 to 8 - i went through all the threads that I could find and most of them say that this reading means we should not put ourselves out there but let things unfold naturally - I just want to make sure I'm interpreting this right - is this saying that its better that I don't ask him anything and just let things unfold?

 

[RindaR]

Many many years ago, I was in a similar relationship. My sense of need and frustration was urgent and on-going for a year or two, not fun to put it mildly. It was during this time, when I was in my 20's, that I first turned to Yi for help and direction as otherwise I was pretty much on my own.

In my ignorance/foolishness/need I would ask for clarification repeatedly in many different ways, trying to find my way out of the labyrinth- does he love me? what should I do? what will happen? and so forth. I do not remember any of the responses after 40 some years, however I still remember the intense gut feeling I had at the core of all of those queries. None of the answers I got made sense to me then. Looking back I think Yi must have been responding to that gut feeling and my own need to decide for myself what to do.

Something I have learned since then is that a relationship is like a bridge, each one must build half of it out from his/her own shore or there is no real crossing over no matter how intense the desire.

I wonder if Yi may be responding to your gut feeling rather than the words in which you clothed your query? If that is possible, what might Yi's response be saying? What might Uncle be telling you about yourself and your situation?

~rinda