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32.2,4,5,6
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alexscherr
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I'm hearing your question as "can this relationship reach its full potential?"
I think you're right: 32 -> 53 seems to indicate a good start towards something flexible and long-lasting. To me, 32 talks about the goal of a fluid and responsive permanence in the relationship, while 53 talks about the means to bring it about: gentle patient action and self-improvement.
But the lines offer a fair amount of caution, mostly to you, it would seem:
32.2: don't take on more in the relationship than you can sustain in the moment: work within yourself and don't try for more than you can handle.
32.4: don't look for something in the relationship that doesn't exist. Perhaps the other in this relationship can't satisfy something that you want: know that early on, and make a decisive choice about the fact. But don't keep pursuing something that's just not there.
32.5: most of my translations are heavily gendered here, about the proper roles of husbands and wives. But I think it's possible to say, learn what you role you actually play in the relationship, both between the two of you, and between you as a couple and the outside world: and then learn to live comfortably with that role, whatever it is.
32.6: allow yourself to settle into the relationship, don't overwork it, don't cast about for alternatives, just look for some peace within its restrictions: restlessness in the relationship will undermine it.
Finally, while 53 generally talks about slow development through small steps, it does seem to have one other piece of advice: pay attention to your own development in the relationship, cultivate yourself within it. And that just seems like good advice to me: not to get lost in 'the relationship' as a union, but to see it as partnership of developing people.
OK: now I'll fall silent . . . . I know there are other possible readings there.
Alex
I think you're right: 32 -> 53 seems to indicate a good start towards something flexible and long-lasting. To me, 32 talks about the goal of a fluid and responsive permanence in the relationship, while 53 talks about the means to bring it about: gentle patient action and self-improvement.
But the lines offer a fair amount of caution, mostly to you, it would seem:
32.2: don't take on more in the relationship than you can sustain in the moment: work within yourself and don't try for more than you can handle.
32.4: don't look for something in the relationship that doesn't exist. Perhaps the other in this relationship can't satisfy something that you want: know that early on, and make a decisive choice about the fact. But don't keep pursuing something that's just not there.
32.5: most of my translations are heavily gendered here, about the proper roles of husbands and wives. But I think it's possible to say, learn what you role you actually play in the relationship, both between the two of you, and between you as a couple and the outside world: and then learn to live comfortably with that role, whatever it is.
32.6: allow yourself to settle into the relationship, don't overwork it, don't cast about for alternatives, just look for some peace within its restrictions: restlessness in the relationship will undermine it.
Finally, while 53 generally talks about slow development through small steps, it does seem to have one other piece of advice: pay attention to your own development in the relationship, cultivate yourself within it. And that just seems like good advice to me: not to get lost in 'the relationship' as a union, but to see it as partnership of developing people.
OK: now I'll fall silent . . . . I know there are other possible readings there.
Alex
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As has been noted above, there are several problem areas in the relationship.
For example, the problem presented by 32.4 is dwelling on what you think is lacking in the other person . . .
I was going to write a lot, but I see you haven't said if you are male or female, or whether this is a business partnership or a marriage we are speaking about. If you are asking if the marriage will produce a child anytime soon, the answer is: Probably not. Maybe someday.
The lines say to me that you two have been arguing a lot due to some very deep conflicts or that you do not see eye to eye on many important things. Marriage counseling might help you both get the proper perspective on these conflicts. There is a middle way, when people learn to meet each other half way.
For example, the problem presented by 32.4 is dwelling on what you think is lacking in the other person . . .
I was going to write a lot, but I see you haven't said if you are male or female, or whether this is a business partnership or a marriage we are speaking about. If you are asking if the marriage will produce a child anytime soon, the answer is: Probably not. Maybe someday.
The lines say to me that you two have been arguing a lot due to some very deep conflicts or that you do not see eye to eye on many important things. Marriage counseling might help you both get the proper perspective on these conflicts. There is a middle way, when people learn to meet each other half way.
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