32.3,4 > 7 on how she feels

[sasha]

Hi again

I red C's blog on asking how s\he feels, and got inspired.
http://onlineclarity.co.uk/answers/2008/11/29/asking-how-he-feels/

So I went ahead and asked. I asked the original question to see where it might take me.

But again I just cannot emerge myself in the hexagrams that regard this particular topic. It works on almost any other topic, but on this i just cannot concentrate...

i asked "how does she feel about me? And got 32.3,4 <7
It is duration and the army...

But I cannot find an angle to understanding this...

Is it about me? Her? Duration? Is the Army about built up energy \ potential?

Even if I take it as "how should i approach her?" as a point of entry I just cannot grasp the meaning...

Anyone?

Could anyone just give me a push on this one?

 

[em ching]

I think give her time and more of a chance.
But then also be a disciplinarian. I mean, if she knows your feelings and is leaving you hanging then that's unfair. Maybe you should lay your cards on the table a bit.

 

[willowfox]

i asked "how does she feel about me? And got 32.3,4 <7

It suggests that she no longer has any interest in you as she now knows it will lead nowhere in the end, so she has become emotionally cool/icy toward you.

 

[sasha]

You see there came a situation on my birthday a week or two ago where she got all chaosy feelingwise, and very drunk. (i just met her in town by chance) she tried to hurt me and she succeeded

But it wasnt really a big problem as it just showed how she felt, and that she actually doesnt know how to react.

the day after we talked a bit about it and for once i told her what she is actually doing to herself (from an outside perspective) And for once she actually apologized and admitted that she has issues with feelings and such (things i have noticed and tried to tell her but with no results)

Now i am unsure whether to leave her alone or to be a support for her in this time of change for her (if she really wants to change and if i am welcome to help...)

 

[sasha]

But how do I look at these answers?
Is the first hex now connected to the second via the moving line as "normal", or could it be one is me and the other is her? how to view it...

I am asking so i can learn from it for future reference, i am not just trying to get out this situation, but hopefully develop my relationship with Yi.

 

[Trojina]

But how do I look at these answers?
Is the first hex now connected to the second via the moving line as "normal", or could it be one is me and the other is her? how to view it...

I am asking so i can learn from it for future reference, i am not just trying to get out this situation, but hopefully develop my relationship with Yi.

Thats one reason why asking about others feelings gets confusing...you don't know what angle to view the answer from. Now if you don't know which angle to view the answer from how is anyone else supposed to ? BTW you said you were inspired by Hilarys blog to ask this question I don't think she was saying its a great way to ask a question, just that occasionally it was helpful....to her.

 

[diamanda]

Well, 32:3 speaks of someone who is very unstable, with ill results of course.
If she is as unstable as you're saying, at the moment, then you really need to
be the stable one in the situation. If you leave things up to her, nothing will
come out of it. 7 speaks of taking the situation in your hands. Waiting for
her to decide which way she wants to go will not work. I think 7 is telling you
to stabilise your own feelings and decisions first, and then make them known
to her, firmly and clearly. You need stability of purpose, and not let things
just drift wherever the wind blows for her day by day.

 

[sasha]

hmmm... thank you

Thank you Trojan. I see now what Hillary meant, it is not that i didn't believe her. On the contrary. I just had to see for my self You know how some children actually touch the hot plate when they are advised not to...)

And thank you too diamanda and off course Willowfox.
Being very thankfull for willowfoxes advise i have some trouble getting my head around it many times, since it is so short and to the point...

But actually, with all that is said in this thread, I think I have got the point of entry on this and some clarity
Thanks