32 no changing line... should I continue keeping in touch with my ex boyfriend?

[candii]

I'm new to IChing and hope someone can help me traslate what I got.

My question: should I continue keeping in touch with my ex boyfriend.
I got 32 no changing lines.

Summay of my story
I dated him about 7 years back and never seen each other again. Now we both have our own families. He emailed me and started talking to me again (we now live half world apart).

So I don't really know what I'm doing right now. I enjoy keeping in touch with him but I also know that the chance of us getting back together is next to nothing. So I asked iching if I should continue keeping in touch with him. The first time I got 15 no changing line. And now I got 32 no changing lines. So it means I should continue keeping in touch with him and then? What would happen? Or maybe there no answer for the future yet?

Thanks!

 

[rosada]

32. Duration unchanging suggests your long time friendship could continue but perhaps you are being guided to consider what it is you would like to give duration to in your life and act accordingly. Are you a married woman and is he a married man now? Then I think the I Ching is telling you you should make your decisions assuming this is unlikely to change. Does that make any difference? I mean, would keeping in touch with your old friend just as a friend be something you could honorably do or Is keeping in touch with your friend liable to undermine your bond with your partner? If so i think the I Ching is advising you to drop him.

It's hard to get clear answers from yes or no questions.
-rosada

 

[chucklesthegirl]

32 unchanging is a tough one. It could apply to your overall situation and advising you to keep things as they are (keep this ex as an ex and maintain your relationship with your current family). Like Rosada said, it could also describe an enduring relationship (though, not necessarily sexual or romantic) that stands the tests of time. Maybe you and your ex will always feel a connection.

What helps me sometimes is to read the judgment and image for an unchanging hex. Usually something in there clicks and it gives me my answer.

In relationship situations though, it can be very difficult to remain objective and to not read what we want to happen into the i ching's response.

Best of luck and hope I helped.

Namaste!

 

[candii]

Thanks for your answers rosada and Namaste. Yes he's married. I'm not married yet but my partner and I have a little boy together and we're already settled as a family. I always know that there is something special between my ex and I, is kind of a bond that it will never go away. And he also feels the same. We're so compatible in everything but it's just maybe we're not meant to be together. It's funny, I once thought if we one day would be together, it would be in the next 20 years. Anyhow, I'm still keeping in touch with him in moderation. And I think, if one day he will be mine, he will be mine. Thanks again!

 

[candii]

Hi again

So I just asked Iching again for more specific questions.
What is my relationship with my ex will be in the long run?" Will we be together in the end?"
the answer is Hexagram 63 no changing line.
What does it mean?

Thanks!

 

[elias]

Hi again
So I just asked Iching again for more specific questions.
What is my relationship with my ex will be in the long run?" Will we be together in the end?"
the answer is Hexagram 63 no changing line.
What does it mean?

As they say in computer programming, "garbage in, garbage out." You're not formulating your questions well, as Rosada suggests above. In your initial posting you appear to be asking the same thing over and over in hopes of getting an answer that suits you.

In this last instance you're asking two questions at once, and you're treating IC as a fortune-telling tool. IC does not tell you the future, it tells you the present. As we mortals tend to see the world thru the lens of the past, what is really the present seems like the future...

A better starting place for consulting IC would be along the lines of "What is the gift (or lesson) of my relationship with..." Once you gain a handle on that response -- and you must take at least a day or two, and ponder multiple interpretations -- you might follow up with "What would be the consequence of continuing this relationship in its present state (or something of this nature.)"

Such an approach will bring you more objectivity and more sensible responses.

 

[rosada]

63. After Completion.

Your lover relationship with this man has ended but you are having a hard time accepting it. You are fortunate in that you have this chance to reinvent yourself in the role of Family Friend, but if you are secretly hoping this will lead to a renewed romance the Judgement warns, "At the beginning good fortune, at the end disorder." What you think is a harmless fantasy could turn into a real life misfortune. With this in mind consider what the superior man would do:

IMAGE: The superior man takes thought of misfortune and arms himself against it in advance.

-rosada

 

[patro]

Hi,

32 unchanging must be interpret as an exaggeration of 32 when changing.

the answer related to your question is... yes you can and you will keep in touch with your ex... and this for a long long time... but at the same time the Yi advised to seek and realize a solid cemented traditional relations.
well... will you ready, will he ready to abandon your existing relationship?

 

[patro]

the Yi is an incredible tool, you can ask.... in the right way... all what you want.
you can make question about the future there is no limit... the Yi will answer you... you'll most probably will not understand the answer... since most of the described situation are up coming...but you will finally understand and agree with the answer.

please consider that this kind of multi question is wrong:
What is my relationship with my ex will be in the long run?" Will we be together in the end?"
this are 2 different question.... the right way is to ask one question per time...to understand the answer... and then to decide the new question to toss.

 

[rodaki]

IC does not tell you the future, it tells you the present. As we mortals tend to see the world thru the lens of the past, what is really the present seems like the future...

that's a great one, thanks :bows:

Nawpan, I think your 32 answer is not specifically about the contact with your ex, but about your own basic principles of living. IMO, 32 in this case reminds you to live your own life, following nothing but your own inner sense of justice and growth (stand firm/And do not change your direction) .

As for 63, it reminds me of a discussion I had a long time ago with a very dear friend about a troubling issue and their advice was to keep myself true and let it take care of itself; after some time i realized they were so right!! "It's gonna be what it was supposed to be ' . . that's what I read in it. Live your present now and let tomorrow surprise you

 

[mythili]

As for 63, .... "It's gonna be what it was supposed to be ' .

Thats really a lovely way of seeing 63.
Thank you!

P.S. Took the liberty of selecting part of the quote..........

 

[candii]

Thanks elisa, rosada, patro, rodaki, and mythili for your inputs .

I have been more realistic about this friendship now.