32 UC and various marriage casts

[elllybellly]

Hello!
I keep getting the same answers to the same questions over a long span of time when I ask about marriage. Over the past 3 years, Ive asked for advice on the lesson I need to learn in order to have a life partner, and got 32 UC each time.

“Lasting, creating success. Not a mistake. Constancy bears fruit, fruitful to have a direction to go”

The 5th line advice is about persistence being auspicious for a female and ominous for a male. Although I identify as female, maybe this hex is saying: If I'm not ready to settle down and want to keep exploring my options, I should avoid making a lasting commitment?

Twice, I’ve gotten 37.2>9 in response to “how do I attract my life partner”

37: opposing means outside. People in the home means inside.
Line 2: “no direction to pursue, stay in the center and cook. Constancy, good fortune.”

Ages ago I asked for an image of my future partner and got 37.6:

“With truth and confidence like authority: in the end, good fortune”

I keep hoping this all doesn’t mean “well if I can just find the inner life partner inside of myself, I won’t need a real one on the outside” , but would love and appreciate any feedback

Thank you

 

[my_key]

Hi banjomary

Over the past 3 years, Ive asked for advice on the lesson I need to learn in order to have a life partner, and gotten 32 UC each time.

The lessons that you need to learn in order to have a life partner could include being unwaveringly consistent and dependable; exhibiting strong yet flexible personal qualities and setting and maintaining compassionate boundaries, protecting yourself and others, in both your inner world and your outer world.

The nuclear of 32 which gives it deep guidance is 43 'Eliminating'. Maybe there are lessons still to be learnt and things that you need to focus on as you persevere in your spring cleaning.

The 5th line advice is about persistence being auspicious for a female and ominous for a male. Although I identify as female, maybe this hex is saying: If I'm not ready to settle down and want to keep exploring my options, I should avoid making a lasting commitment?

In unchanging hexagrams you are advised not to read the line statements.

Twice, I’ve gotten 37.2>9 in response to “how do I attract my life partner”

To attract a life partner align what you say with how you act. Focus more on nourishing others rather than your own wants. Re-imagine yourself as a fire that everyone wants to warm themselves around. At the times of your casts this was perhaps still a work in progress as the small patterns that will grow to bring the lighting of the new fire (9) have not yet been fully adopted. (nuclear - 64 'Not Yet Fulfilled')

Ages ago I asked for an image of my future partner and got 37.6:

Your future partner will be a reflection of how you are on the inside and the wisdom that you connect to most readily. 37.6 is the line at the head of the household, and hugely influences and creates the tone that the rest of household follows. You are the head of your own household and are responsible for creating the Tao that you wish to follow and so, by extension, to influence the image of your future partner.

Remember, the image of any relationship is a co-creation.

I keep hoping this all doesn’t mean “well if I can just find the inner life partner inside of myself, I won’t need a real one on the outside” , but would love and appreciate any feedback

I don't think it means that,

... of course there may be other interpretations that you find speak more clearly to you.

Good Luck

 

[elllybellly]

Hello My Key!
This is an incredibly helpful perspective! I love your summation of 32, and the idea of co-creation and de-mystification with 37.6. Thank you.

 

[marybluesky]

Hello!

the lesson I need to learn in order to have a life partner, and gotten 32 UC

The image of 32 says "The noble young one, accordingly, makes a stand without changing bearings" and the commentary"worthwhile to be persistent, worthwhile to have somewhere to go."

Twice, I’ve gotten 37.2>9 in response to “how do I attract my life partner”

You don't need to pursue anything. Just enrich the inner life as opposed to the outer world/ image. It may indicate by being a good housewife, too.

Ages ago I asked for an image of my future partner and got 37.6:

37 again. A true, confident man.
Together with 37.2 the image sounds like a traditional type of relationship.

 

[Hans_K]

Hi Banjomary,

I keep getting the same answers to the same questions over a long span of time when I ask about marriage. Over the past 3 years, Ive asked for advice on the lesson I need to learn in order to have a life partner, and gotten 32 UC each time.

In the West, when we think of the words 'enduring', 'constancy', 'duration', etc. (H32) we often think of something that stays the same for a long time
In ancient China, this was viewed very differently. The Chinese symbol for H32 shows a boat moving back and forth between the banks of a river.
So here you see a cyclical movement that provides continuity through change, think for example of the constant changing of the seasons that provides continuity.
The nuclear hexagram of H32 is H43 Determination/Eliminate/Resolution. In H43, you see 5 yang lines pushing out the yin line at the 6th position (the inferior, the weak), so to speak.
The combination H32 - H43 thus shows a picture of constantly changing by working on yourself.

The lower nuclear trigram Heaven in H32 (lines 2,3 and 4) is surrounded by Earth (this is called the baoti).
The active, stepping out, taking charge (Heaven) is blocked by the passive, the wait-and-see (Earth).
The upper nuclear trigram Lake is surrounded by Water.
Lake is the trigram of interaction with the environment, exchange with others, joyfulness. This is blocked here by fears and insecurities prevailing, a lack of clear direction (Water).

You give no further description of your situation, only that you have received H32 several times in response to your question about marriage, but to what extent are you actively engaged in finding a partner?
Are you sitting on the couch, so to speak, expecting the prince on the white horse to automatically ring the doorbell one day?
Have you had dates and done things differently as a result?
H32 also seems to be saying that if you do the same thing over and over again, you can expect the same result every time. After all, that is also continuity.

The nuclear hexagram H43 and the boati may give clues to start another cycle of continuity.

This would be my interpretation. As always, take what resonates and leave the rest

 

[elllybellly]

Hey @Hans_K ,
This is a beautiful take on it and I think you are right. I've had a few serious relationships lasting 2-5 years, and each one has been a really deep connection that changed my life for the better, and I was very grateful for each one. For the baoti, I do tend to stay in relationships past their expiration date out of fear that I will be single forever.
But I've learned that each new partnership feels more aligned with my personal growth so I don't feel like I'm going in circles. I think you are right about the cyclical movement bringing constant change by working on myself, and I love the image of the boat going back and forth.

Ive been continuing to date/put myself out there and do inner work and therapy. So I hope the Yi is saying, "keep at it," focus on "staying in the center to cook" and this will eventually lead to the right match for me eventually. If you follow astrology.. I have Saturn, Uranus, and Neptune all conjunct on my descendant, all retrograde, so this sort of checks out with that configuration.

 

[Hans_K]

But I've learned that each new partnership feels more aligned with my personal growth so I don't feel like I'm going in circles.

I don't think so either, see it more as a spiral where you do a circular movement but keep moving up a level. That is also continuity

 

[rosada]

I see 37.2 > 9 for how to attract your life partner as meaning just be yourself. I’m seeing Uranus on your seventh house cusp as indicating partners who value their own right to be their unique selves and would recognize and appreciate those who likewise have a strong independent streak.

As Marybluesky noted, if you are 37.2 and he is 37.6 that really looks like a lovely partnership so persevere! I wonder if 37.6 could also be indicating an older man? Someone retired, perhaps had a previous marriage and kids he feels proud of but his first wife has died and now he’s looking for a strong confident woman ..who knows how to cook… okay, getting carried away. But meanwhile, You might try really getting into hexagram 32 - like read all the lines, read various interpretations, write your own interpretation, and then watch the world around you over the next couple of days. As you focus your mind on 32. youu should see examples of 32 manifesting in the world around you. Maybe noticing couples who are celebrating long marriages or just seeing how you instinctively keep conversations Continuing when you talk with friends. And of course to recognize when things have continued long enough and how to move on to 33. Retreat.

With Saturn at the first degrees of a new sign these days it does seem as if the times they are a changing but it also means it takes awhile to get new projects fully launched.

 

[elllybellly]

he’s looking for a strong confident woman ..who knows how to cook… okay, getting carried away

Carry away!! Thank you @rosada and @marybluesky, I would have totally missed the 37.2/37.6 connection.

Thats great advice to do a deep dive of 32 and how it connects to 31 and 33. It’s funny that you say that because This year particularly, I have been encountering a lot of really impressive couples that I admire and who have been great role models.