35.4 -->23 If we divorce?

[philish]

Why do people send this sort of thing electronically?

Separated husband sent a firm request that I decide if we're "over". Actually, I think he tried to be clever about it, citing this as a "limited time offer" to get the old version and the new version back if I return now.

So, a bit off balance here at work (and the students will be streaming in soon) I quickly consulted one of the online ICs for a thought. Asked "If we divorce?" Got 35.4--23.

This is the most challenging decision I've ever been faced with. I was the one who initially requested the divorce (after MUCH reflection), but I'm still battling my internal "bad girl" message loop that says I'm wrong to pursue the divorce. However, on many levels I cannot find compatibility with this man, as much as I genuinely care about him. I just cannot imagine life with him on an intimate, daily basis. We do have a daughter together.

Is the IC telling me that I'm missing something essential? Is this a warning?

 

[willowfox]

The chance to divorce has come up but it suggests that your ex husband is up to no good and being devious with it, it is a warning to watch out.

 

[meng]

My impression is that your lives together has been extremely busy. Possibly you've tried to improve your relationship through more activities, and that rather than these additions having enhanced your relationship (i.e. your example of electronic communication), it has eroded it.

23 can refer to looking behind/beneath appearances, to discover the core, and may include counseling. Of course if your question was answered directly, a divorce would most certainly strip away the relationship.

 

[philish]

An update: turns out H was yanking my chain. (He's been a little ornery lately.) But with our next counseling appointment coming next week, I'm going to assume there's a little passive-aggressive message in there. And think on what I ought to do about it.

BTW, I asked the IC "What is the reality of the situation?" and got

50, 2.4.6-->15

Chill, I believe is the appropriate mode now.

 

[ben_s]

I asked the IC "What is the reality of the situation?"

That's an outstanding question. As soon as I'm done writing to you, I'm going to ask it about my own situation!

50.2,4,5 is definitely a warning about the need for caution - especially to look beneath the surface at those who claim to be helping you or working with you.
50.2 "My comrades are envious, but they cannot harm me." Still, there's a need to be aware that - as you figured out - some communication is less than forthright!
50.4 (Because of a careless assistant while the cook looked away), the leg of the pot was broken and dinner was spilled all over the honored guest!
50.5 Good helpers were found because one had a constructive attitude. 'Having achieved this attitude... it is important for him to hold to it and not to let himself be led astray."

I would also double check, and carefully consider, what your counselor and attorney are telling you. They might have great intentions and valuable ideas to share. They might also be misleading you, accidentally or otherwise.

15 The virtuous person puts things in balance. "Every valley shall be exalted, and every mountain and hill made low, the crooked straight and the rough places plain."

Putting it all together, I get the message, "Think for yourself and don't let anything or anyone do your thinking for you!"

Such a shame that you're getting selfishly hassled by your mother at the very same time!