37.4.6 > 49 - sometimes a reading is, simply, good?

[redoleander]

I tend not to divine on my own relationship questions because it scrambles me but I did ask Yi

I want to make things work with X, how realistic is my hope
37.4.6 > 49

My wife and I are in a very positive period after having had some pretty big problems about six months ago. I feel that the changes we've made are genuine and that we also will have to continue to find productive ways to navigate our differences. The nature of the connection, if relevant, was very madly-in-love/passionate/sudden and then also (later on) finding we were incredibly different, disagreeing on many things... then deciding we still wanted to make things work and giving each other more space while still being together. We do love each other. I think we both have good intentions. I don't want to wear rose-colored glasses either though (those work well when dating but not in marriage )

This reading looked very positive to me, yet I'd also like to understand if I'm being given any cautions or other info that would help me look at things realistically or understand better what's being asked of me. I don't yet fully understand how to use the resulting hexagram, sometimes I see it as background, sometimes I read it as a possible outcome. 'Radical Change' is definitely appropriate as the context although I'm never sure if it's also telling me that it's something up ahead as well.

Hex 37 Line 4 (from LiSe's site)
6 at 4: A rich family. Great auspiciousness.
One strong dependable person can be the base of a big family. A family needs a foundation, everyone who contributes to that is worth his weight in gold. The family will survive through hard times, the children will grow up to strong individuals, the members will all feel safe and at home. All these different people need a common base to stand on.

I read this as saying one of us must be the stable base for the family and step up to that. Maybe both of us? I feel like it could be saying that if I see a need for this, then it's my job to do that.

Hex 37 Line 6 (from LiSe's site)
Top 9: Having truth, impressing thus. In the end auspicious.
Be true, with your common traits and all: maybe you need them too. If you live up to a good cause, a spiritual ideal or perfectionism, you will never accomplish much. But if you mix the good with some down-to-earth common sense, then you succeed. A good family raises its children to high morale, but also to a healthy fighting spirit.

This reads to me as realism. Marriage isn't a fairy tale, it needs high ideals but also very basic day-to-day practice in order to work. With both, there is possibility of success.

I also took into account Hex 63 Line 6 (which Hex 37 Line 6 changes into)
Top 6: Soaking one's head. Danger.
Never be sure of success. If you want to keep it, then stay as focused as when you made it. Success has to be made and made and made, it needs you to go on. If you turn around, it will collapse behind your back. (is it incorrect to reference this though?)

Lines 4 and 6 of the resulting hexagram were also helpful:

Top 6: The noble one changes like a leopard, small men shed the skin of the face. To set things right: pitfall. Settling-down determination: auspicious.
Be content with the results when everybody does what he can do, and give everyone this freedom. Asking for more or different will bring about failure and bad feelings. A change is for the better, not for perfection.

9 at 4: Regrets disappear. He has truth in changing the mandate. Auspicious.
To bring about something viable and strong, one has to follow one's own belief and motivation. What is accepted from others and does not carry this own inner conviction, weakens the result and prevents it from becoming an organic whole.

Lots of references to staying in integrity but not expecting perfection! All feel relevant.

Overall, still seems positive to me, curious how others read this casting.

 

[marybluesky]

Yes, I see the reading as "simply" positive: a you're going through a transformation-49- as you say, and the lines indicate good fortune in family matters.

 

[diamant]

I want to make things work with X, how realistic is my hope
37.4.6 > 49

It is realistic, if you are alert to another woman creating troubles for you.

37.4 is a lovely line, a rich household.
37.6 is a beligerent woman.
Because 49 describes two 'sisters' at war, the beligerent woman might be her sister (if she has one).
Hidden line 13.6 speaks of borders/countryside, so this person doesn't live very close.
Perhaps someone who wants to put a rift between you so as to lay her hands on your rich household?

Alternatively, you like X's riches and lovely house. But X is a dominant beligerent woman, so you'll find someone else on the side. When this happens, arguments will ensue.

 

[redoleander]

I want to make things work with X, how realistic is my hope
37.4.6 > 49

It is realistic, if you are alert to another woman creating troubles for you.

37.4 is a lovely line, a rich household.
37.6 is a beligerent woman.
Because 49 describes two 'sisters' at war, the beligerent woman might be her sister (if she has one).
Hidden line 13.6 speaks of borders/countryside, so this person doesn't live very close.
Perhaps someone who wants to put a rift between you so as to lay her hands on your rich household?

Alternatively, you like X's riches and lovely house. But X is a dominant beligerent woman, so you'll find someone else on the side. When this happens, arguments will ensue.

Interesting! I have a question about this, if you don’t mind. Since we are two women, could it be representing us, the “sisters”? I have no idea how far these images can be stretched in their application, but when you said that it was the first thing that popped to mind. The idea of someone on the side is for sure something I think about and am aware of. As of yet, nothing concrete, but it’s been a floating concern for a while. I know for sure she had at least one friend try to talk her out of being with me and I think it was actually jealousy because they don’t know me at all. Her whole family is made up of extremely domineering women so honestly could be anyone there too. Ha.

(edit: ah I see you already have the possibility of one of us being the belligerent woman. It could honestly fit. She can be fairly difficult and we have had some tough moments. I haven’t looked elsewhere so I guess that maybe seems less likely.)

 

[redoleander]

I want to make things work with X, how realistic is my hope
37.4.6 > 49

It is realistic, if you are alert to another woman creating troubles for you.

37.4 is a lovely line, a rich household.
37.6 is a beligerent woman.
Because 49 describes two 'sisters' at war, the beligerent woman might be her sister (if she has one).
Hidden line 13.6 speaks of borders/countryside, so this person doesn't live very close.
Perhaps someone who wants to put a rift between you so as to lay her hands on your rich household?

Alternatively, you like X's riches and lovely house. But X is a dominant beligerent woman, so you'll find someone else on the side. When this happens, arguments will ensue.

OK, wait, I have to ask. how do you know 37.6 is a belligerent woman? I haven’t seen that anywhere. Your interpretations in the forums seem so spot on so I can’t help but be nosy about where this inside info is coming from

 

[diamant]

Since we are two women, could it be representing us, the “sisters”?
Could be, although I somehow don't think a couple would be described as 'sisters' (then again with the I Ching you just never know 100% who it means).

how do you know 37.6 is a belligerent woman?
Check out this page for 37. Scroll down to 'Upper line'. Then click on the character "wēi : power; might; prestige", to see the dictionary definition.
You can also look at the dictionary definition (domineering) on this page. I've also seen somewhere else (sorry can't remember where now) that it shows a woman holding a weapon. Bad experience with this line had led me to really dig into it, I've found the domineering woman apply very well.

 

[redoleander]

Since we are two women, could it be representing us, the “sisters”?
Could be, although I somehow don't think a couple would be described as 'sisters' (then again with the I Ching you just never know 100% who it means).

how do you know 37.6 is a belligerent woman?
Check out this page for 37. Scroll down to 'Upper line'. Then click on the character "wēi : power; might; prestige", to see the dictionary definition.
You can also look at the dictionary definition (domineering) on this page. I've also seen somewhere else (sorry can't remember where now) that it shows a woman holding a weapon. Bad experience with this line had led me to really dig into it, I've found the domineering woman apply very well.

Thank you so much for sharing that!

 

[dfreed]

I want to make things work with X, how realistic is my hope
37.4.6 > 49

Red Oleander, when I look at your question and the response, I think, yep your hope is realistic! Question asked and answered. And that may be all you want or need to know.

But I wonder, are you actually wanting to know more - maybe seeing if the response gives you some suggestions or details about how your hope can be realized?

 

[redoleander]

But I wonder, are you actually wanting to know more - maybe seeing if the response gives you some suggestions or details about how your hope can be realized?

Yes, definitely. Thank you for this suggestion. I asked “what will give us really reason to have hope for our relationship” and received 27.1 > 23 which was a little bit of a slap because that line is so awful to read. I am genuinely not sure if this is telling me “wake up! you’re on the wrong course” or specifying what the right course would be (not to focus on petty things or stuff outside our connection?). I’ve received this line before in another context, I’ll have to look up where, but I it’s fairly harsh so I’ll have to mull it over I guess.