38.2.3.5 to 13

[Pearlescent]

I asked How to be with S? and recieved 38 line 2,3,5 changing to 13. I think the Iching is telling me to approach this person or that I should strive or union with them. Truthfully, I don't want to becse they purposefully try to make me feel bad so they can feel good about themselves but they won't stop texting, calling, and emailing me. I've been ignoring them for almost a year now.

I asked to be sure, what if I keep ignoring her? And got 39.6, which I think means this is going to drag on because I read on the forum that it means going at someone else pace. Do any of you have any idea between these two readings if I am understanding it well? or maybe what would be the best thing to do

 

[ginnie]

I think when you get an email from her you must reply, "Stop emailing me." When you get a text from her, send this back: "Stop texting me." And tell her, "Stop calling me." Just keep repeating the same message without adding anything. You don't have to explain anything.

 

[Pearlescent]

Thank you Ginnie... I would like to do that. The thing is she has not really done anything wrong. I guess you're right that I could just do that, but my intuition tells me that might somehow cause trouble, what I mean by that I guess I don't know... I appreciate (and respect) your opinion, but I would like to ask if you have based this off of the readings at all or is this a common sense response? I really would like to tell her to stop contacting me. I just now asked the iching what if I tell her 'stop calling me' and got 62 unchanging. I think it could be a step in the right direction. I am afraid of conflict and calamity, but of what I really don't know.

 

[ginnie]

what if I keep ignoring her? And got 39.6

Ignoring her just brings more trouble and the counsel from Yi is to ask for advice . . .

I based my answer on your readings and especially on 38.3, which says there will be an end to your troubles. My impression is that you are one of those tender souls who are afraid to say no. You think something bad will happen if you draw up a boundary line and put your foot down. Well, it's a common enough feeling but all of us have to confront this tendency in ourselves at some point. She's irritating you and right now you're afraid of telling her to stop doing this. You might try it out as an experiment, just to see what happens . . . and I can assure you that the roof won't fall down or anything like that.

 

[Pearlescent]

Ginnie thank you for helping me with this, I did tell her to stop texting and calling me and she said she would. I almost can't believe it was that easy, but thank you for suggesting it and helping me understand these readings because I can finally leave this all behind me and I would have been to scared to just go ahead and tell her otherwise. I'm extremely grateful, thank you so much!