38.4.5 - 61

[Lettuce]

Any help would be appreciated.

I ended a 6 month relationship as x was not ready to fully commit. I decided that it was best to end it if he couldn’t commit as i was starting to feel too insecure with the set up. He didn’t want it to end but isn’t ready to commit so we parted ways not on good terms.

my qu: will we reconcile in the future with commitment? 38.4.5 a 61

my feeling is we will remain estranged as we (line 4)have opposing views that separated us. This line talks of joining with like-minded people and that doesn’t sound like us as we have opposing views. (line 5)we will not reach an agreement in that matter, we agree to disagree and remain separate. 61 what i want and the reality of the situation are very different. Time to face the truth that it’s over

Does anyone see this reading from a different perspective? Any help would be much appreciated x

 

[Trojina]

It doesn't look too bad for getting back together unless there's a whole different connection in line 4.

You never went back to this thread

37.1.2<57

would it be right to interpret this reading as a couple nicely settled together? hex 37.1.2< 57

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[Lettuce]

Thanks Trojina,

You have a very in-depth knowledge of the Yi-Ching that I respect and value so your input is always appreciated. I will keep you updated with this thread and its outcome.

I updated the thread above. It wasn't associated to any particular situation. I was just trying to understand more clearly the meanings of the lines so there was not much to report on.

 

[Liselle]

It's still interesting that here you are with - presumably (?) - a real question about a real relationship, and:
(a) Yi gave you the next hexagram in the sequence
(b) this reading is partly about how X can't/won't commit, and 37.1 says "With barriers, there is a home."

It could be Yi's pointing you back to that reading, and it could be that the 37.1.2 to 57 reading was real advice.

Of course I absolutely don't know that for sure. But I wonder if his commitment could grow, kind of paradoxically, from you giving him his space, not pushing for it, and just going on day to day (37.1.2)?

That's against normal relationship advice, of course. Most people most of the time feel like you do, not very excited about committing to someone who won't commit back.

But if you entertain the notion that maybe (maybe) it's Yi's advice, how does it sit with you?

 

[Lettuce]

The reading 37.1.2 - 57 wasn't about myself and x but I can see how you came to that conclusion. X did say that he may just need time but I was very clear that I would not sit around waiting. It is a shame as there was a lot of potential but the situation gave me more angst than enjoyment.

I asked for a clarifier to the same qu and got 8.4.5 - 16

It feels to me as though the reading is reflecting me announcing publicly to him that I want commitment and maybe the 8.5 is that I need to let him go and just see what happens, maybe he will come back maybe he won't...Not sure how to read 16