39.3>8 I must be seeing this wrong

[wind]

I asked the Yi to "Show me the future of my marriage to R" three times in the last few weeks. Every inquiry came back as 39.3>8.

For anyone reading this that does not know my situation, my husband of 16 years has been exposed to having more than one affair in the last 3 years. He recently moved my kids and I to Maryland from New York, only to leave us 4 months later. He currently resides with his most recent girlfriend.

As I see this reading, 39.3 says that a person is unable to move forward, therefore they have no choice but to turn around. Then it leads to 8, Seeking Union.

I'm really trying to not get overwhelmed by the implications of this, but, does this apply to me returning home to NY (Which I do not feel is in the better interest of my kids and what I would likely obtain in the divorce) or if it means he will eventually look to come home and work this out. Heck, I could be seeing wrong! Anyone one want to help me on this three time mystery?

 

[kkappa]

Oh boy, I hate to be the messeger, please don't shoot me, but to me it is screaming "divorce."

39 is turning to yourself to learn from this situation
39.3 you are in the position to act as the head of the family, and because he is not being very responsible about it, it is best for you and your kids to "turn to your own". whether this means moving or not, that is something another question can clarify.
8 represents the marriage, the union

But the troublesome part comes in when I looked at the opposite of 39.3 - which is 8.3 "holding together with the wrong people out of a false sense of intimacy". I'm going to let that one speak for itself. I am so sorry to hear of what a man he is and honestly, even without the reading, you are better off without him. You deserve better. MUCH BETTER!

 

[wind]

Thank you Kkappa!

I was dreading the thought of working this out, so no bad news here. I gave forgiveness, but honestly, the burden of what he did would constantly fall on me. I'm not nearly that saintly to contend with this knowledge looming over me. I have been a fabulous wife and mother- this I know. I (and certainly my children) deserve much better than what we were dealt. I know I deserve someone that loves and cherishes me... not everyone else.

 

[wind]

Just a curious after thought... could the wrong company be his tramps? He has mentioned more than once that he is not content with them or their personalities. Do keep in mind, I feel that he has gone through an emotional breakdown

 

[Olga Super Star]

Wind? How did it go?