40.2.4 to 2

[Martinhax]

So I’m going through this hard breakup and it’s taking me a lot of energy.
I asked “what can I do to feel better about myself” and got 40.2.4 changing to 2.

Just asking some for some more experienced readers to give some advice on this.

It’s being difficult to ask questions not related to my relationship that ended and if there are ways of getting back together but finally I did a question for myself.

 

[marybluesky]

Hello Martinhax!

All in all your reading says: leave the past and be receptive to the future. Persevere, be balanced, free the bad influences & you'll find help.

Good luck!

 

[Martinhax]

thanks marybluesky

In a lot of my reading there’s the message of perseverance and be true to myself. I tende to relate to persevere with the feelings I have for my ex partner...
what would it be another way of thinking of this?

It’s amazing the answers one get, I’m truthfully fascinated.

 

[marybluesky]

I can't find another way of thinking of this

 

[Freedda]

perseverance .... what would it be another way of thinking of this?

Martinhax: if you were to ask the I Ching about losing weight and you got a response that included 'perserverance furthers' or 'persistence is timely' or something similar, would you take that to mean that you should continue overeating or being obese?

What this means, quite simply, is that whatever advice you're given it will take some effort, hardwork and maybe patience on your part to bring it about.

And in this case, you asked about how to be happy - and I assume also how you can get over - or get past - this past relationship (note: you didn't ask about getting back together). I take the advice to mean that you should find real - down-to-earth - (hex. 2) ways of having small victories, small wins or completions; for example, to complete a marathon, or learn a new craft, or (to catch three foxes on a hunt) .... and that you need to be persistent, work at, be patient in doing this.

Best, D.

 

[diamanda]

what can I do to feel better about myself” and got 40.2.4 > 2.
IS the guy a player, constantly chasing alurring foxes in the field? Then he comes home to you to play it like "you and I are so cosy and familiar"? It sounds like a good plan for him... but it obviously makes you feel bad. Two options here, either he stops (highly unlikely) or you stop to regain your self-steem and value.

 

[mandarin_23]

Hi Martinhax, this hexagram 40 might also relate to the situation, the breakup. The golden arrow in the second line with the three foxes reminds you to stay concentrated and keep calm, free yourself from bad Habits or negative thinkings and so on. The 40.4 line reassures you that you can relax and will find the right person for you anyway.

Hexagram 2 as a relating hexagram is an own Story. Some say that it means the situation mentionned in the "first" reading to dissapear. Maybe! In my experience, there is always this strong element - to be guided. So that you don't need to worry all too much. Daily routine, well done, might help a lot.

All the best
Mandarine

 

[rosada]

40 is about releasing whatever you have been hanging onto that is preventing you from living a full happy life in the here and now. The Image specifically mentions forgiving those who have trespassed against us. The lines suggest you focus on some worthy goal that you can give your full attention to. This will help you free yourself from the vague longings and delusions about what might have been - the "foxes" that steal your peace of mind and aim to have relationships with friends who appreciate you. 40.4 suggests that if you can do this - release all ties to the ex - you'll clear the field and make yourself available for a real partner to enter your life!
Hexagram 2 for the second hexagram likewise encourages you to clear your head and to have an open mind for the future and particularly cautions you not to dwell on negativity - don't be thinking, "he was the one, no one else will do", don't plant bad seeds in 2. Earth! - as you do not want to recreate the frustrations of the past.
These hexagrams seem to me to be not so much telling you what you should do as counseling you to get over the past relationship, let it go, chalk it up to one of life's experiences we all have to go through sometime, maybe it's made you more compassionate, empathetic for others who are going through similar stresses - and then just keep going with your life - Persevere with putting one foot in front of the other. Time heals all!

 

[Martinhax]

Thank you all for your advice on the reading.

It’s never easy to go through a break up while believing we were building a family and a home.
I’m doing my best to cop. To be kind to myself and to the other person who fled from this.

Almost Every time i ask if we would get back together i get the hex 33 with unchanging or changing lines. So I must Retreat I know.

Thank you all.

 

[rosada]

33. suggests you have been aligned with this man's energy and now you are going through the experience of letting that vibration go,

It's like you've been attuned to his heartbeat and now you are recalibrating to realign with your heartbeat. To relearn how to march to the beat of your own drum.

So now I'm thinking in order to feel better about yourself you should start by recognizing you are going through a spiritual cleansing phase and so to feel good, to feel in alignment with what's going on with you spiritually, do things that are cleansing in your physical world now too, as in clear out clutter. do a juice fast, meditate and get a massage! Visualize making your inner landscape as calm clear and Receptive as Hexagram 2!

 

[diamanda]

So sorry to hear you're going through this Martinhax... I'd suggest that you focus on yourself only, be kind to yourself, and don't worry about being kind to someone who led you on. I don't find it useful at all to be kind to someone who betrayed us, it's a gross mis-direction of our energy.

In romantic relationships, 40 is about sexual relief. This person used you, and others, for sexual relief. Is that what you want your self to be? One of many, of who none has heart-value? 2 is about being receptive and fertile. As rosada says, clear the decks. To feel better about yourself, get rid of the situation described in the lines of 40.