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My initial thought is, you're asking a yes/no question, which is fine in my view ... However, in this situation you're asking it about an 'always' and 'forever' thing (or outcome). I sense some advice in this reading - along with (or besides) a yes-or-no answer. But is that part of the response - or the interpretation - you're (also) looking for - perhaps to make her future/fate not so final?I asked, Is the end result always ....
My initial thought is, you're asking a yes/no question, which is fine in my view ... However, in this situation you're asking it about an 'always' and 'forever' thing (or outcome). I sense some advice in this reading - along with (or besides) a yes-or-no answer. But is that part of the response - or the interpretation - you're (also) looking for - perhaps to make her future/fate not so final?
And I'm wondering, are you asking so you can help / advice her (a response you will share with her), or is it just for you (maybe out of curiosity)?
Best, D.
I’m asking because I felt conflicted on what to say to her. Normally I will tell friends to listen to their intuition because most people don’t trust themselves and then say they regret it later. But I felt I had to just stay neutral; what if I gave her poor feedback that would harm her. I honestly felt that I don’t really know the answer. I asked this I suppose for my knowing, in order to support her, not really sure if I’ll share the actual casting with her (definitely not until I at least understand it better anyway). She asked me for advice so I don’t feel I’m prying by looking into it (although Yi might feel differently!) but I guess I am hoping to use the information in a useful way if possible.My initial thought is, you're asking a yes/no question, which is fine in my view ... However, in this situation you're asking it about an 'always' and 'forever' thing (or outcome). I sense some advice in this reading - along with (or besides) a yes-or-no answer. But is that part of the response - or the interpretation - you're (also) looking for - perhaps to make her future/fate not so final?
And I'm wondering, are you asking so you can help / advice her (a response you will share with her), or is it just for you (maybe out of curiosity)?
Best, D.
Your question does sound a bit awkward. The phrasing of question may not be helping you to interpret and so find a way to understanding the conflict you are feeling about what to say.The topmost line is a yin element representing evil. With a long record of misdeeds, it can call no helpers to it's aid. There is misfortune. The ancient sages believed that if one plants melons, one reaps melons, and when one sows beans one gets beans.
I asked, “Is the end result always going to be him running off with someone” (her fear)?
.... and received 43.6 > 1
Thank you, this is very helpful.Alfred Huang writes of 43.6
Your question does sound a bit awkward. The phrasing of question may not be helping you to interpret and so find a way to understanding the conflict you are feeling about what to say.
Sometimes it can be useful to reflect on what are your motivations (even when asked) for wanting to intervene in someone else's life. That can also be an insightful question to ask Yi.
Good Luck
Wow, yes, “tenderness tinged by sadness” as reality, that is so resonant.With Hex. 43 you have the joining together of the Creative and the Joyous trigrams. One line from 43 that stands out for me - and seems relevant is:
"... not favorable for espousing violence ...." And line 43.6 says: There is no cry[ing]. Ultimately disastrous. (based on Rutt)
One way I see this is that your friend may have unfinished grief or unresolved feelings of loss - or the fear of facing this loss (not yet crying); and perhaps too, if she approaches this as if it's a war or battle, it may not be winnable (not favorable for espousing violence). Perhaps this is the "unfinished business" she needs to resolve - to get to Yes, she (and then he) can stop running now. ( .... also, with Hex. 1 being part of this reading, I wonder if her unfinished business may be related to her father?)
The upper trigram, Dui / Lake is about joy - and finding joy; I also associate it with the heart (the one broken line atop top solid lines look like a heart to me). And sometimes it seems, we find joy even if we start from a place of broken-heartedness - and this reminded me of:
" .... overcoming that very hard and tough, aggressive mentality which wards off any gentleness that might come into our hearts. Fear does not allow fundamental tenderness to enter into us. When tenderness tinged by sadness touches our heart, we know that we are in contact with reality."
---------from "The Tender Heart of the Warrior" by Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche
I hope that's of use to you - and if it is, the challenge may be how to share it with your friend?
Best, D
Yes, I see the question is oddly phrased. Definitely don’t want that to factor into the confusion. I meant just this specific relationship. Her feeling is that if she trusts this person, he’ll run off eventually even if not right away. Just a feeling she has about him. I’m not sure if it’s a fear though since it’s sort of vague. He somewhat has an odd dating history but not exactly as a cheater. More just as someone who hasn’t been very mature in dating. My intention was to ask essentially “is she right in her intuition”. That’s what I was asking even if I worded it badly. And then receiving this line kind of stunned me because of what the actual line says.Is the end result always going to be him running off with someone” (her fear)
A strangely phrased question.
Do you mean if that's her destiny in life? If her fear is causing them to cheat?
A cheating partner cheats because they're a cheater.
I'm not a cheater, so if I get together with someone who fears that, it will definitely not turn me into a cheater. It's not her fear that is turning others into cheaters. What's most probably happening is that she chooses to ignore red flags till it's too late.
43.6 > 1
No 'cry' (or no tiger's howl / number / mark / sign).
Someone doesn't manage to overthrow the 'inferior' line, so it all starts over (1). There is no decisiveness. In the end there is misfortune.
Something is definitely wrong with the situation.
Perhaps a more straightforward question will give you more insight.
I’m asking because I felt conflicted on what to say to her .... She asked me for advice so I don’t feel I’m prying by looking into it.
As do I, so I know how delicate this situation - and our hearts and minds - can be.I am so cautious because I have this too
Yes, agree about intuition! It’s exactly that. We wait for “proof” but then what’s the point of intuition; it’s able to work differently and come to an awareness via different pathways and in different timing.Her feeling is that if she trusts this person, he’ll run off eventually even if not right away.
Trust is something which has to be earned. How about she first observes, and decide much later (and based on facts) if she can trust him or not? There must be something off about him if she can already feel alarm bells, in my opinion. How long have they been together?
PS/edited - what we call intuition is always a vague feeling. Our brains compute endless info-bits per minute, and so they know things before our logic gets there.
I know, it's hard to look away from that part. I'm definitely sitting with that. Sometimes an answer is so clear it's almost spooky and I wonder if a trickster is actually trying to get me to look deeper or it's just really that straightforward. I appreciate your comment; I honestly feel similarly.It's tricky to say that someone will certainly do a bad thing at some point just by divination;
however the I Ching's message is clear if we're to trust it: there will be misfortune in the end- and probably without warning.
43 meaning 'breaking through - the strong breaks through the supple'“Wing: Danger comes from a seed of evil in your own Self, perhaps a self-delusion or conceit that blinds you. Just when you feel you may relax your resolve and continue without helpers, it will cause you to err. Misfortune.”
So 1 here is the context and the nuclear (a double whammy of 1-ness), carrying with it your challenge to stay vibrant and to engage unceasingly with new inspiration. In this way you will bring about the breakthrough. Otherwise if you are not up to the challenge there will be misfortune waiting around the corner for you.
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