44.2.4.6 to 39 - Male coworker avoiding me

[scarlettgirl]

It's been awhile since I've posted but I am in a weird situation at work. A new guy was hired a few weeks ago and he's been completely avoiding me. Like in a weird, get away from me as fast as he can kind of way. I have a good reputation at work and I've subtly asked around to try to find out the problem but I'm just kind of baffled. I never had romantic feelings or even tried to engage him at all but I know he has a girlfriend because this is a small company we work for. When I asked the yi why he was avoiding me it gave me 44.2.4.6 to 39. I've read commentaries on this and its sometimes translated as temptation! What?! Is this guy afraid of me or something, I'm really low key and never expressed interest in him! Does he think I'm inferior or insignificant from the lines? I'm laughing about this but it's a small place and his weird avoidance is uncomfortable. Thanks so much.

 

[Sixth Relative]

Hi

44zhi39. I'd say he wants to prevent another woman to make an scandal out of jealousy. There is a high chance that he would fail in his attempt and eventually he would move away from that woman.

 

[radiofreewill]

Hi scarlettgirl,

"Why is he avoiding me?"

44.2.4.6 to 39 "Your strengths at .2, .4, and .6 are problems for him ~ girl power intimidates him."

I've seen this cast referred to as the 'Jezebel Scenario' ~ In patriarchal cultures, the strong woman (i.e. ~ any woman who thinks independently for herself) is considered a threat to the established male order, and gets labelled derogatorily.

Chinese history is packed with stories of women who brought down Kingdoms and Empires, because they were stronger than their men ~ or so the stories go.

So, you may have gotten labelled by this guy as a troublesome uppity woman ~ his toolbox full of man'splaining hammers doesn't work on your nails ~ therefore, you are to be avoided...

 

[scarlettgirl]

Thanks Sixth Relative for your reply but I'm not sure who you're referring to - me or his girlfriend. Is he avoiding me to keep her from getting jealous? Not sure if that feels right, I'm at least a decade older than him although many people tell me I don't look close to my age. Still, I've never expressed any interest in him. It definitely has to be me he's moving away from, as he's already doing that. Mmm, I'll have to think on that.

Radiofreewill - that sounds like my situation although I don't really project that image strongly, some think I'm a pushover and stuck with my head in the clouds. lol. Maybe he's used to being around weak, submissive women or something. There's nothing wrong with whatever image a woman wants to project but circumstances in my life lately have pushed me to develop a lot more inner strength. I've always kind of had the feeling that he was intimidated by me and the Yi confirmed it. But for anyone who really knows me, that's hilarious.

Thanks again for the interpretations. I think a few of my suspicions were confirmed but hopefully he'll lighten up on me and at least try to be professional rather than obviously avoiding me.

 

[Sixth Relative]

Thanks Sixth Relative for your reply but I'm not sure who you're referring to - me or his girlfriend. Is he avoiding me to keep her from getting jealous?

Yes, I was refering to "another woman", so if he already has a grilfriend she would fit that role.

Now, it may surprise you but you don't need to express (or have) any interest in a man for his girlfriend to become jealous. [She could be a jealous woman before knowing about you or even if she never knows you exist]

Anyway, this is how I'd read your answer but that doesn't mean I'm doing it right
a) He does start to have feelings for you
b) There is another woman, she is not in the front row of the show now
c) She has feelings for him and could have (or eventually develope) jealousy about you
d) He avoids you to prevent this other woman to make an scandal
e) This other woman would come to the front line eventually, there is a chance that she will take some action (scandal?)
f) Is she takes action, that would make him walk away from her. Not necesarily to move towards you, though.

 

[scarlettgirl]

Thanks Sixth Relative for expanding on your reading - it is appreciated. If your interpretation is true then I hope he keeps his personal problems away from work. And let's also hope that the move is away from me, I wouldn't want someone who has displayed such a lack of civility towards an almost complete stranger (me). I've decided just to completely divert my thoughts from this, I just wanted a more comfortable working atmosphere and if ignoring him too helps, then I'll do just that.