44 in relationships.

[althoz]

I suddenly had a wave of fear regarding my relationship. some flashbacks make me think maybe he is not really faithful to me, or is scouting around, or flirting with others.
I asked if I have any reason to doubt him about his feelings for me? I got 44.3.4.5 towards 4.

It seems to me one of his friends is trying to go between us. what does the hexagram say?
the changing lines of hexagram 44 do not seem too favorable.

Interpretation of this is ver appreciated.

 

[willowfox]

I asked if I have any reason to doubt him about his feelings for me? I got 44.3.4.5 towards 4.

I think that his feelings for you are not what they should be as Hex 44.3 says that he would like to get involved with some other woman but you are holding him back, so he has not made that mistake so far. Hex 44.4 suggests his opinion of you is at a low ebb while Hex 44.5 suggests that if he is prepared to put his whole attention on you then the relationship can go well.
Hex 4 suggests that you still have things to learn about this man.

 

[tabitha]

recently someone post good advice on relationship questions-- to ask the i ching: what is my relationship to x, his relationship to me, and the status of the relationship- In terms of clarification and what you might bring moving forward-- ( if its worth your time for example!) maybe it would help you as well.

 

[shefa]

I often like to ask - what do I most need to know about this relationship? Or, what is the best approach for me regarding this relationship? Those questions and answers could give you some great insight. God luck.

 

[althoz]

Dear all,

Thank you so much for your replies! Willowfox thanks for your interps.
Tabitha and shefa, thanks for the suggestions. They have helped!

 

[timmy]

Hex 44 CAN BE extremely POSITIVE

From the Wilhelm-Baynes translation of “The I Ching or the Book of Changes”

The time of COMING TO MEET is important in still another way. Although as a general rule the weak should not come to meet the strong, there are times when this has great significance. When heaven and earth come to meet each other, all creatures prosper; when a prince and his official come to meet each other, the world is put in order. It is necessary for elements predestined to be joined and mutually dependent to come to meet one another halfway. But the coming together must be free of dishonest ulterior motives, otherwise harm will result.