50 relating 52 : how can I do to leave him?

[lilylotus]

I want to leave somebody that has been in my heart but not in my life, I want to leave him because I can not keep waiting for him the whole life, and I already lost hope he will be with me ever. When I tried to took him from my heart, always happened that by fate things started to happen that took him back to my mind and heart. And then I started to communicate again with him, I always gave felt that this person that is very messed up in heart, it is my soul mate. I want him to move away from me, but I really dont know how, i dont know what other questions to ask to the iching, does he feel something? then I think I am trying to give me a reason for what to stay, mean while he does not do anything to come back. He may never share nothing of him with me, then how can I do to take him out of my heart, to leave him..This is what I asked. Help? It reallu have become an issue for me and my life..:bag:

 

[rosada]

First, if you go over to the Memorization Threads there is a lengthy discussion of 50 and that may give you some ideas.

50.2 I see this line as affirming your genuine caring for this man. I also wonder if it is saying problems were caused between the two of you because somehow the rest of the world didn't think the two of you were a suitable couple?

50.4 The legs of the ting are broken.
Again a feeling of not being supported. It's really sounding like you were hoping for more from this relationship than what was possible.

52. The superior man does not allow his thoughts to go beyond his situation.
Well this is pretty straight forward. Throw yourself into what ever project is right in front of you. Don't dwell on the past or dream about the future. Focus on the here and now.

Best wishes,
Rosada