54-->38 Interpretation help

[taow]

K..my question was "What can I do to get into a Loving, fulfilling, hot, intimate relationship?"

Hexagram 54, changing line 6 going to 38

I really don't understand the hexagrams though I have thought about it.

Any help appreciated! :bows:

 

[willowfox]

You need to be sincere and not as you are acting now, superficial.

 

[taow]

You need to be sincere and not as you are acting now, superficial.

OK, as blunt as that is...I understand that the same-time, part of me is dumbfounded like..does that mean I drop all my standards about the "ideal" women, meaning looks & personality and just go for whoever?

I know it sounds dumb, but its something I'm been thinking about for awhile previous to the reading.

 

[willowfox]

No, it means the opposite, that you improve your own standards of attitude as you come across as a boy who all he needs to do, is to wear some smart clothes, comb his hair and think he will find someone to lay for the night.

You want someone special then be sincere, show them that you are not just another player looking to score.

 

[taow]

No, it means the opposite, that you improve your own standards of attitude as you come across as a boy who all he needs to do, is to wear some smart clothes, comb his hair and think he will find someone to lay for the night.

You want someone special then be sincere, show them that you are not just another player looking to score.

OK, to be completely honest I've been working on "improving myself" the last 4 yrs in interpersonal skills etc. yet I'm still a virgin (which doesn't matter too much), haven't had any dates, nor relationships. So in reality..my whole aim has been a relationship this whole time but I have no clue how to achieve that, so in being sincere its just saying "I like you and want to get to know you better?"

 

[willowfox]

Sincerity requires a truthful depth of feelings, so perhaps you are pushing people away by your attitude.

 

[taow]

Sincerity requires a truthful depth of feelings, so perhaps you are pushing people away by your attitude.

Willowfox I appreciate your helps ALOT, sametime...I'm completely clueless- is there anyway I can find this answer? Like tips? Part of me knows, sametime it feels like I don't at all. Reflecting on the hexagrams will probably confuse me more, so anything?

 

[willowfox]

Line 54.6 is all about shallow or hollow behaviour and attitude, it like being made to go to church every Sunday, you hate it but you do it, even though it's meaningless to you.

So, you are coming across as shallow, girls see you as just looking for a hot night and nothing more, so they keep out of your way. You are not a player, so don't act like one, and don't try to come on strong, just be relax and let things happen naturally. You can't build a house in 5 minutes, so stop trying.