54 and what to do - help please

[scorpioontherun]

Dear all,
I am in a kind of relationship with a man but I'm dissatisfied already (we are seing each other since one month) of being the "second". I knew it, but it does not feel right. So I plan to bail out. Of course he is adorable so I have some doubts.
I asked the Yi what if I'll tell him "my dear I really really like you and it is for this reason I must go my way. If and when you will become a free man, we'll see."
Reply: 54.5-58

and then what if I stay in the situation and just wait and see

Reply 54.2.3.4-36

Isn't it ironic? Anyhow I will need your help to clear my head.
i think the first option is the one the Yi is suggesting .
I really really like him though ... arrrggghhh
Ciao
Scorpio

 

[gato]

you are a second choice for him ... i see same thing in both readings

 

[scorpioontherun]

Thanks gato. So it is a no brainer ... bye bye mr charming.

 

[gato]

bye bye scorpion

 

[bradford]

I think "on the run" says it all. Slow down. Breathe. 54 is a warning about haste.

 

[scorpioontherun]

Thank you Bradford,
as one should do in these cases I slept over it and I think you are absolutely right. I think the Yi is telling me: you are in a second position, you do not feel good about it, you want to push it somehow HOWEVER sometimes a slave becomes a concubine, so bide your time, no not act, detach yourself from the situation, keep your dignity, HIDE YOUR LIGHT. And this is precisely what I did this morning. Took a coffee with him, being nice but somehow cold and detached. Let's see. Thank you everybody. Scorpio
BTW Bradford, I find your translation extremely useful, thank you for this incredible work

 

[hopex]

54 is an interesting one it describes the bride bringing her sisters with
her. They are all available to the man but there is only one wife. Line 5
is interesting because generally a concubine can acquire influence over
time but in subtle ways - line 5 says not to shine til knife at adveraries throat
and even then not revealing one's true position.
I like the idea of telling unavailable men to look me up when they are free.
Then seeking those who can put you first - men like that kind of strength and
its the kind of strength you need. The second reading about going into this ends
in 36 which to me says there will be unhappy lonely weekends -
However stating if you're free that would be nice ends in joy 58 - maybe the
joy of keeping control of your situation. Bonne chance!!