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Hi all,
This is the first time I've posted, after being immersed in the I Ching much of this past year. Most of the readings I've done so far, the meanings make pretty clear sense to me. However, this one is not nearly as clear to me.
My question was, "How should I approach the disparity between X's drinking some and that being usually a deal-breaker for me, given that I also really like him otherwise?" So, the background is that this guy from my past showed up. We always had a great connection but were friends due to my being in another relationship. I think so much of who we are lines up compatibly, but then I realized over the course of some phone conversations that he drinks somewhat regularly, whereas anything other than occasional drinking is a deal-breaker for me. I told him that, he asked why, and I explained that I strongly value clarity in both myself and interpersonal relationships, and that I'm wary of alcohol as a coping method. I was very honest about how I felt about it, he tried to honestly give me an estimate of how much/frequently he drank, and then he said he'd have to think about that and changed the topic.
So, my question was about how I should approach this disparity, because so much else between us seems really great, but I know I can't bend much on that issue. All the other readings I've done concerning a possible relationship between us seem really positive.
55 is abundance, so that seems positive. Line 2 seems to speak of truthfulness and sincerity, and maybe not pushing things beyond speaking your truth? It sounded maybe something like speaking sincerely and then waiting for the other person to come around? Not sure. That's what I've already done so far. Line 4 seems to include something about meeting with someone you have affinity with? Both lines talk about being in darkness and not being able to see things clearly. I'm not sure what that's about, beyond not knowing what's going on now or where I should go with this - in addition to the drinking thing, he wants to move slowly since I just ended a long relationship, but that's left me feeling like nothing's happening at all now. The relating hexagram is 11, which feels like the general connection we have otherwise - really positive, warm and strong - as well as being the same hexagram I've gotten in other questions about us.
Can anyone help with further insights? Thanks for any input!
This is the first time I've posted, after being immersed in the I Ching much of this past year. Most of the readings I've done so far, the meanings make pretty clear sense to me. However, this one is not nearly as clear to me.
My question was, "How should I approach the disparity between X's drinking some and that being usually a deal-breaker for me, given that I also really like him otherwise?" So, the background is that this guy from my past showed up. We always had a great connection but were friends due to my being in another relationship. I think so much of who we are lines up compatibly, but then I realized over the course of some phone conversations that he drinks somewhat regularly, whereas anything other than occasional drinking is a deal-breaker for me. I told him that, he asked why, and I explained that I strongly value clarity in both myself and interpersonal relationships, and that I'm wary of alcohol as a coping method. I was very honest about how I felt about it, he tried to honestly give me an estimate of how much/frequently he drank, and then he said he'd have to think about that and changed the topic.
So, my question was about how I should approach this disparity, because so much else between us seems really great, but I know I can't bend much on that issue. All the other readings I've done concerning a possible relationship between us seem really positive.
55 is abundance, so that seems positive. Line 2 seems to speak of truthfulness and sincerity, and maybe not pushing things beyond speaking your truth? It sounded maybe something like speaking sincerely and then waiting for the other person to come around? Not sure. That's what I've already done so far. Line 4 seems to include something about meeting with someone you have affinity with? Both lines talk about being in darkness and not being able to see things clearly. I'm not sure what that's about, beyond not knowing what's going on now or where I should go with this - in addition to the drinking thing, he wants to move slowly since I just ended a long relationship, but that's left me feeling like nothing's happening at all now. The relating hexagram is 11, which feels like the general connection we have otherwise - really positive, warm and strong - as well as being the same hexagram I've gotten in other questions about us.
Can anyone help with further insights? Thanks for any input!
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