58.5-54 ....9.6-5.... 47

[Lodestar]

Any help analysing these casts appreciated.:bows:

58.5-54 Opening- Marrying Maiden - for Is my father jealous of me?
It's been an ongoing pattern in my life, that I give loads of support & encouragement to people, but when my turn comes I get no support & and often jealousy and resentment instead - I could never understand why this experience would recur and has been a source of great pain. I think this may be the origin - I've given hugely here, in an unhealthy mothering role.

9.6-5 Small Taming - Waiting - for 'How do I deal with him now I've had this realisation?'

47 Oppression/confined - for 'How can I heal and rebalance myself?'

 

[moss elk]

There is a kind of freedom that comes with having a clear perception of a person.

You don't have to bang your head against that wall or set yourself up for dissapointment now, by trying to squeeze blood from a stone.

Knowing he is just the way he is, really accepting it, will allow you to make better decisions for yourself.

And also remembering that how he is really is all about him, and has nothing to do with you

It is a wonderful thing when feelings and actions are reciprocated, but it doesn't happen with everyone.

 

[Lodestar]

Thank-you Moss Elk, I agree and apply that in general. I think what I'm finding so difficult is that I never noticed. Many people have parents who don't support them but it's often obvious. What kills me is I'm only noticing now and only noticing how I vastly I over-gave to him. It's quite a slap in the face. I had always held him up as a paragon of virtue.

What could 47 be telling me?

 

[blue_angel]

I think 47 might be telling you, you can not go on trying to please or convince others of what you know is right for you. To persist in your own healing and balance, with perseverance and a strong will, you will find success. Because this is what you know is right for you. You'll have to accept that you need to close off this part with your father. Look within and trust yourself. Then you will be like the tree, that is well rooted, but able to spread out its branches. If you continue to try to please and convince others or your dad, you will continue to live a very confined and oppressed life. And you can not convince with words, you must convince with actions. Wu- says "A marsh devoid of water, is like a man deprived of his intellectual pursuits." Do your thing.


9- Accept that you can not influence him to change, but you can accumulate your own energy and things that you need to succeed in your endeavors. Just realize there will be no convincing him, so there is no sense in wasting your energy trying to. Be passively respectful or loving. Not so little you antagonize him or have any regrets later, but not so much, you deplete your own energy. When you give, give without expectation of ever receiving anything in return. So you don't go out of your way to the point of decreasing yourself and not meeting your own needs. You give because that's what feels right in that moment. Not with hopes of pleasing the other, or earning their approval, or praise. You give when you have the strength and the energy to do so. And you do it, naturally, just to give. With no other motive behind it. If you give for any other reason, you will only deplete your own energy and needs. And it's ok to say "No, I would love to help you, but I can not do it this time." Does that make sense?

9, Line 6- I think by recognizing this, this awareness you've had, you have "won the battle". But the line seems to advise to "rest, not try to fight the whole war." To continue to build up your own worth and energy. Your own confidence.

5- Enjoy yourself, think positive, be confident, and venture out.


Oddly enough, I think 58.5>54 means, it doesn't matter if he is jealous of you or not, and thinking in this way will only bring you misfortune or frustration. It won't help you to further yourself. Nor will it help your relationship with him. 54 and 58 to me is like you can only assist in open, joyful, communication. But you must retain your balance and inner joy with or without him.



Hope that helps a bit. Best wishes as always,


Blue_Angel

 

[Lodestar]

Thank you Blue Angel. Very helpful!

I guess I'm not the only daughter to find herself in this trap.
The hardest thing will be for me to stop giving & care-taking..but at least this realisation helps.

:bows:

 

[xuesongyu]

Hello friend:
According to I Ching's rule, you should not predict many times for a question. So I just want to explain the first result to you.

Is my father jealous of me? 58.5 >54

Hex 58 stands for "happiness", but when there is one changing line, we should consider the code of changing line. The line 5 says "A man cannot be convinced because of his insincerity", which show that your father's resentment comes from his own mistake. He knows that he is not a good man, but he does have the courage to face up to reality and correct his mistake.
The name of Hex 54 is "a girl getting married", it seems that this hex corresponds to you. The hex codes says that "If you keep moving forward, you will have ill luck, there is no benefit to doing so." I Ching suggests that you should not contradict him directly, otherwise the situation will get worse.
Good luck to you!

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Any help analysing these casts appreciated.:bows:

58.5-54 Opening- Marrying Maiden - for Is my father jealous of me?
It's been an ongoing pattern in my life, that I give loads of support & encouragement to people, but when my turn comes I get no support & and often jealousy and resentment instead - I could never understand why this experience would recur and has been a source of great pain. I think this may be the origin - I've given hugely here, in an unhealthy mothering role.

9.6-5 Small Taming - Waiting - for 'How do I deal with him now I've had this realisation?'

47 Oppression/confined - for 'How can I heal and rebalance myself?'

 

[Lodestar]

Thank-you. I've always been like a mother to my father, protecting him.
It's not about him anymore, I've no plans to confront him, he's not a bad person, just immature & didn't get what he needed as a child..

Personally I just want to be able to move forward, achieve..
Getting married would be nice too! ..to have a life and a world of my own!