59 to 32 help with son

[blueflower]

Hello,
I have a very troubled son, acually he is my step son but I have raised him from 8 months.
He is 20 years old, dropped out of school, and is taking pot ( nothing else as far as I know) His dad and I divoreced 5 years ago.
He has just recently moved in with me, 6 months now. I enrolled him in an online school so that he could get his dipolma ( he did nothing with this , and finnally the school dropped him)
He refused to get a job, disrepects me and calls me horriable names.
I love him, so much and this is upsetting me... I do not know what to do.
This morning.. I tried again to talk to him
Told him... I need 3 things from him in order for him to stay.
1. respect,
2. be helpful, clean up after yourself
3. do something to improve your life... look for a job, finish school or get a ged.
These sound so basic to me... but he went into an out rage.. and said that I was not this real mom and that I have wreaked his life my divoricing his dad.
am heart broken.
I told him... he would need to leave , that I could not continue to live in this way.
I gave him a week ... ( he has no place left to do... has pushed everyone away with his hurtful actions) I am so worried about his anger.
I asked about my path....59 3,4,5,6 goint to 32
The way am ready this is that sometimes, I need to put space between up, to allow him to make his own way , so we can start fresh.
To sent him on his way.. because am enableing him.. if I do not
Any insights ?
Thank you

 

[gato]

yes, send him on his way .... no remorse, no worries. but I think it will take a little longer before is out

 

[arabella]

I look at this much dispersion, Hex 59 and so many changing lines, as everything that represents the past on its way out. This is appropriate and you need to let it all go, which is for the better, not the worse. Don't let anyone bash you with the fact that you love them; that's the antithesis of love.

Especially in the aftermath of a divorce you need to come back to a calm centre yourself on which to rebuild: Hex 32. No one but you has anything to say about your desire to sustain a marriage -- or not. At the age of 20, this young man needs to be getting on his own anyway and he, not you, should become the platform on which he may establish a legitimate future. Right now he's acting like a baby because he's frightened to get out there and try it on himself. Easier to criticize others who are in a guilt-ridden and vulnerable position. Tell him time's up -- grow up, He'll swim or he won't, but that would happen anyway. It's all about nobility of the spirit coming to the fore. Try not to worry; he's lucky to have someone who cares enough to tell him to get with the program.

 

[willowfox]

I asked about my path....59 3,4,5,6 going to 32

If he gets violent, leave the house very quickly and call the cops.

Your answer is quite clear as to what to do, you need him out of the house and out of your life until he learns to become a responsible and civilized person.

It says that even though you feel that you love the boy, he has just become too difficult to handle, therefore forget about your love and that he's related and move him out because his anger could very possibly lead to a physical attack, as line 59.6 says to keep him at a distance for "his" own good.

Hex 32 says for you to stand absolutely rock solid in your decision to move him out, if you don't then you can expect the fallout which will come, and it will.

 

[blueflower]

Thank you so much for your support....
Its very hard to let go... specially when there is so much fighting. I just hope he comes back.
I know am doing the correct thing.
My family is telling me excally the same thing widowfox

 

[themis]

May the forces that be guide you in setting the young man back on track.