63.6

[mindful_seeker]

Advice for next steps in deepening my relationship and how to best express my love?

Answer 63.6

Help.

 

[femke]

Hi Mindful Seeker

A friend of mine got this answer recently. Her question was similar. I think it means stop wanting more out of the situation right now, and try to be satisfied with and focus on your relationship (next hex.37) as it is. For her this meant very practically giving up her wish of having another baby, since her husband doesn't want it and she has enough business managing the family as it is now. It is important to give the extra wishes up, since the Yi talks of "danger". She has a very hard time accepting the current situation and not wanting more. Is this comparable to your situation?
I hope this is of some help.

Femke

 

[yly2pg1]

63 is about crossing a river.

Line 6?
The upper trigram change from a stream to wood/wind. Time to switch mode now.

While stream is about taking risk, wood and wind signify slowing down, getting steady and gentle penetration. Do not rush or stir thing - stop wanting more out of the situation right now, and try to be satisfied with and focus on your relationship (next hex.37) as it is, as pointed out above.

 

[mindful_seeker]

Point is, I haven't been expressing my love. I'm not wanting more from him, I'm wanting more from myself. My question to Yi was a "how to" question. It was about me.

 

[yly2pg1]

I'm not wanting more from him, I'm wanting more from myself.

While I do not expect this response, I have to agree this could be the best answer to your question.

Sometimes, the best gift what a LOVE could render is perhaps learning to love yourself - the skills denied from you, the road less travel.