64.2.3.4.5>53

[serinasioux]

Hello Again,

I can't say this reading is vague exactly, I just don't know how to relate it. That and the fact that there are four changing lines makes this one a toughie for me.

Recently a friend of mine that has been more than a friend but not quite a boyfriend for over a year told me that he wants us to be exclusive. Awesome. At first I was ecstatic because this is what I thought I wanted from him. Since then, I have come to realize that he is a damned fool in regards to acceptable relationship behavior and I don't know if I am equipped to deal with his growing pains while he figures it out. If he figures it out, he's a bit too old to be this naive and I still doubt his sincerity...but that would be another reading.

And so I asked "What if I break up with him?"

The response; 64 with lines 2,3,4 and 5 changing to 53.

Is this telling me that I would be giving up too quickly and that my relationship with him is one of gradual progress or that we will make better progress and good fortune if I do break up with him? (Either way he wont exactly be disappearing from my life) Also, I am having a hard time relating the lines to my personal situation. I would normally take a stab at it and let you tell me where I went wrong but uhhhhhh I dunno. As always, I am happy to provide whatever details I may have left out that you might find helpful...I just don't want to drop a novel on everyone fresh out of the gate

 

[chingching]

I think it might be saying that the two of you haven't even got your feet on the road of relationship development yet. The way to see how to cross the river comes from you own insight (line 5).

I agree there is a level to the reading which is quite a dry response, in terms of making this relationship develop, dont cross the river. But like I just said I get the feeling that this is because you have not gone past a point of weighing up (64) where to go with this person.

oh, i need to add on here that I didnt read all your thread, I just read the question you asked and now I went back to read the beginning of your post:

Recently a friend of mine that has been more than a friend but not quite a boyfriend for over a year told me that he wants us to be exclusive.

i think 64 > 53 directly reflects that. It also seems like that fact you are saying "break up with him" is premature, it doesnt seem like you rae really together with this person. Anyway that's my overall impression from 64 > 53, but as always its just one take.

As this thread hasnt been answered straight away have there been any developmenmts in your situation? and what is your take on the reading now?

 

[serinasioux]

As this thread hasnt been answered straight away have there been any developmenmts in your situation? and what is your take on the reading now?[/QUOTE]


Hi Chingching,

I wanted to follow up with you from the response you gave me a while ago, sorry it took so long Since then, We've "been together" and broken up. We can't really seem to stay away from each other for very long...Or I can't stay away from him I guess. I know now that we are not right for each other as partners, but there is a comfort and friendship there between us. I've tried to break it off a couple times but a few days later we always end up talking and he tells me things like he "doesn't like the idea of me not being around anymore because it makes him sad" so we make up and we are back at it. I love our friendship, and I think that that is the relationship that is developing between us. There is a real possibility that we can develop an impactful and life long friendship. There is lust but there is no romance, I guess we both feel that there is a key element missing that neither of us can quite put our finger on. I've since given up trying to progress or decrease our relationship and let it be as it is and the atmosphere has become a bit lighter.


i think 64 > 53 directly reflects that. It also seems like that fact you are saying "break up with him" is premature, it doesnt seem like you rae really together with this person. Anyway that's my overall impression from 64 > 53, but as always its just one take.

This was dead-on btw. I was confused because nothing had really changed after we decided to make it official the first round. It never felt like we were "together". Since then after a few discussions I have heard from him that he never really wanted to be in a committed relationship because he doesn't really know what he wants but he thought that that was what I wanted and if it made me happy he was willing to do it.