64.2.3.4 >52 Relationship ending

[basquiat]

Hello everyone,

So relationships...

I've been with this girl for more than 3 years, broke up a couple of times, but there seems to be a strongly spiritual connection that isn't very well realized, and it becomes sort of sticky, with lots of attachment from her and avoidance from me.

We both feel there is a lot of potential, but it's a lot of though work and we both aren't so disciplined and furthermore have no clue on which way to go.

So this is the second time I turn away because sometimes I feel I can't stand it anymore, all the fighting days in a row when something isn't right.

It comes in not a nice time for her, but I don't know how to handle her temper, so there is some regret.

So I moved out.

She's really attached begging me to come back, but I just need some space, or a lot of space really, but don't feel completely right about that. I linger on what if... and I feel a deep connection.

And I ask, what is the limit and end of the relationship.

This is when I get (I Ching gets deeper than my question)

64 2.3.4 > 52 (today valentine's day at 8.00 am)

Would appreciate your feedback.
Thank you

 

[maggie may]

It is interesting that you asked about endings and got the 'final' hexagram which means things are unfinished. Water below, representing you, the questioner, can indicate a deep emotional quality to your situation. Fire above represents the situation or the other person or the question. The main attribute of fire is 'clinging.' It can also indicate co-dependency in a relationship. The three moving lines, or places of imbalance, also make the trigram fire. It could indicate that you need to consider what is important to you, as in what feeds your fire.

The moving lines say move slowly. Don't make sudden or rash moves, choices, or decisions. Take time to work through your own emotions and consider what is important to you.

Best wishes

 

[Mountain Girl]

From what I see, you put the brakes on in time as you could sense this wasn't quite right, however, there is some hesitation because you do feel a deep connection. This is causing you to question if you've done the right thing and it's creating some ambivalence as to whether or not you should take her back and continue with the relationship. It looks to me like the suggested action is to keep still (52) and allow things to breathe a bit. The situation needs some time to "develop".

It could be that after some breathing room, things will become clearer to you and you'll have the strength to commit to a decision, in whichever direction feels right for you.

Best of luck to you. These heart-rending situations are never easy.

 

[basquiat]

Yes, I do feel things unfinished. Even if we do not reconcile, it is a lot of inner work I will have to go through.

The whole question was indeed the need to have my space and time to process the what was coming up in the relationship, and still is. It's not ok for her, but that's what I must do now.

Thank you for your kind answer.

It is interesting that you asked about endings and got the 'final' hexagram which means things are unfinished. Water below, representing you, the questioner, can indicate a deep emotional quality to your situation. Fire above represents the situation or the other person or the question. The main attribute of fire is 'clinging.' It can also indicate co-dependency in a relationship. The three moving lines, or places of imbalance, also make the trigram fire. It could indicate that you need to consider what is important to you, as in what feeds your fire.

The moving lines say move slowly. Don't make sudden or rash moves, choices, or decisions. Take time to work through your own emotions and consider what is important to you.

Best wishes

 

[basquiat]

Thank you for your kind words. Yes, I must take care not to rush out (or back in). It's a hard place for both of us, but doesn't make sense to me to go back and into the same cyclic arguments and fighting.

From what I see, you put the brakes on in time as you could sense this wasn't quite right, however, there is some hesitation because you do feel a deep connection. This is causing you to question if you've done the right thing and it's creating some ambivalence as to whether or not you should take her back and continue with the relationship. It looks to me like the suggested action is to keep still (52) and allow things to breathe a bit. The situation needs some time to "develop".

It could be that after some breathing room, things will become clearer to you and you'll have the strength to commit to a decision, in whichever direction feels right for you.

Best of luck to you. These heart-rending situations are never easy.