A bit cheeky, if you ask me..

[precision grace]

So, I have been single for a while and it occurred to me to ask what do I need to do in order to have a relationship again and got 2 unchanging. OK, fine, be receptive.

But that wasn't specific enough, specially as I never understand what it means to be receptive, so I asked for clarification - what do I have to do within myself to be ready for a relationship? And Yi answered - 30 unchanging. Cultivate docility of a cow.

Well. I never..

 

[bradford]

OK, fine, be receptive.

Maybe a better word than receptive is accepting.

 

[precision grace]

Thanks bradford, I don't see the difference between the meaning of those two words in this context, but it doesn't matter, I was just commenting on how amazingly Yi talks to us - with full knowledge of our inner and outer being - for example, I am sure that someone else wouldn't have received the same answer even if they were due the same answer (if that makes sense) because their capacity for 2 would be different ..I think. I tie myself in knots when I try to think about this..

 

[bradford]

Thanks bradford, I don't see the difference between the meaning of those two words in this context, but it doesn't matter,

Accepting is more work.

 

[pocossin]

What do I need to do in order to have a relationship again?
2 unchanging

Use your feminine qualities. Be a little less precise. You've got them. They are in your genes -- your inner nature. You are inherently an attractive person.

What do I have to do within myself to be ready for a relationship?

30 unchanging

How beautiful is a cow to a five year old on a frosty dawn, blowing smoke from her nostrils while chewing the cud, and with such beautiful big brown eyes! Enthralling! No, I'm not recommending that you chew the cud on frosty mornings But what worked for you the first time around will work again, only this time with a bit of cultivation so that your inner qualities show.

 

[precision grace]

Um, I wasn't after interpretation pocossin, but thank you anyway! Always such an obliging gentleman.

Bradford - How do you mean accepting is more work? To me, being receptive, or accepting is like opening a door where before it was closed. I cannot see how one can be more work than the other?

 

[rosada]

Difference between Receptive and Accepting:
The woman was receptive to his proposal but she didn't accept it.

Rosada

 

[rosada]

Did he accept?

A page was posted at the bedroom door with instructions to report back to the king all he heard on the daughter's wedding night.

The next morning the boy informed the monarch, "The princess began by saying 'Sir, I offer you my honor.' The groom answered, 'I am honored by your offer.' A bit later I heard her again say, 'Sir, I offer my honor,' and once more he replied, 'I am honored by your offer.' And then yet again I heard her say, 'I offer my honor' and yet again he replied, 'I honor your offer' and so it went all night long: honor, offer - honor, offer - honor..."

rosada

 

[bradford]

How do you mean accepting is more work? To me, being receptive, or accepting is like opening a door where before it was closed. I cannot see how one can be more work than the other?

Accepting includes what Castaneda called "using all the event." In the context of your question about relationships, it's working with the reality of the other person, not just receiving what you are able to receive from them. In a way, that in itself is a gift in return.
To accept the whole reality of a situation does not mean that you fully approve of it, or that it's some deity's plan, or that all things are exactly as they should be. It's just wanting to begin with the reality of things instead of just your perceptions or hopes. It's wanting to stand on firmer ground.

 

[Trojina]

A page was posted at the bedroom door with instructions to report back to the king all he heard on the daughter's wedding night.

The next morning the boy informed the monarch, "The princess began by saying 'Sir, I offer you my honor.' The groom answered, 'I am honored by your offer.' A bit later I heard her again say, 'Sir, I offer my honor,' and once more he replied, 'I am honored by your offer.' And then yet again I heard her say, 'I offer my honor' and yet again he replied, 'I honor your offer' and so it went all night long: honor, offer - honor, offer - honor..."

rosada

I am quite shocked at such a lewd joke

 

[precision grace]

Accepting includes what Castaneda called "using all the event." In the context of your question about relationships, it's working with the reality of the other person, not just receiving what you are able to receive from them. In a way, that in itself is a gift in return.
To accept the whole reality of a situation does not mean that you fully approve of it, or that it's some deity's plan, or that all things are exactly as they should be. It's just wanting to begin with the reality of things instead of just your perceptions or hopes. It's wanting to stand on firmer ground.

Ahhhh that makes a whole lot more sense. Accepting the truth is very hard when fantasy is so much more appealing. Or not running away when the reality proves unpalatable.

Am I getting it?

 

[rosada]

Yes, I too find it useful to think of 2 as being about Accepting Reality - which can be a major stumbling block in relationships which often involve a lot of ignoring hard facts like she's married or he's gay etc. I think 2 also counsels about the importance of cleaning up one's own act before a really new and suitable partner can materialize who's not just a distraction or a repeat of the past. You can read the lines as a commentary on the importance of being out with the old love before starting in with the new:

2.1 The old love has gone. It's cold, I'm getting old, I'm just going to lay down and die...

2.2 Hmm, I'm still here. Rock bottom or firm ground as Brad says.

2.3 Well I guess there're still some commitments I have to complete before I can rest in peace..throw out the old pictures..pay off the bills...not gonna take on anything new...

2.4 That's it. I'm done.

2.5 OMG, just when you think you'll never love again, he appears!

2.6 And the eternal Battle of The Sexes continues on...

So as an answer to your question about having a relationship again, I think hexagram 2 is saying consider your current situation and see what you still need to bring to completion so you're really ready for someone new.

rosada

 

[precision grace]

That's a lovely summary Rosada - thank you and also I wonder if it could be copied to the 2 thread in Memorising threads?

the last entry on there is very apt here too:

receptive: willing to receive.

This is the key. Be willing to have nothing, to experience everything. Be willing to Receive. That is the key to this hexagram. Let Go. Devotion is not a type of attachment as in Falling in Love attachment. Be able to attach and be able to detach. To attach is Hex 1. To attach into a certain type of outpouring action. Hex 2 is being able to detach your self from everything. Be able to receive. You can't have control over something if you continue holding the Control so hard. To have control is to let go of the Control.
Stay still, be passive. Everything flows, everything goes and I'm watching. I'm doing without doing Wu-Wei! Look at the Mother Earth. She is Receptive. She sucks the water, she holds us magnetically with her gravitation, but she's not stimulating an action as the Sun do. The Moon is also Receptive. There is an old Astrological teaching that the Moon is a storage of our unconscious minds.
The Receptive - willing to receive.
Detachment that is the key.
Passive.
Magnetic.
Yin.
6 Yin lines - All Magnetical, All Receptive, All Passive. Watching. Seeing. Looking at something. Passing go. Letting Go. These are the key words of this hexagram.