A final 61.3.4 to 1

[herrmyte]

Happy New Year to All,
Hopefully I can get an opinion on a reading I just took. I just found out somebody I had been interested in and communicating with off and on for some time is indeed quite involved, and probably permanently, with somebody else. Just as a final inquiry I asked the I Ching:
What does she think of me? 61.3.4 --> 1

Even though its concluded Im still curious to get some idea. Thanks very much

 

[ginnie]

Were you thinking of getting back in touch with her? I believe Yi is telling you not to do that. 61.3 and 61.4 are too powerful lines about relationships.

61.3 is about how some people tend to become completely dependent on their relationships with others. When the two of you were happy together, you were ecstatic. When the two of you were not together, you were miserable and alone. That's living on a roller coaster. That's also romantic love.

I believe with 61.4, Yi is advising you to let it go. You are not responsible for the breakdown in the relationship and cannot change it anyway.

 

[herrmyte]

Thanks for the reply ginnie. No, I will not get back in touch with her. She just confirmed a few minutes ago via email that she is getting married soon. I sent a small reply telling her that it was a little harsh to do that to a person -- lead it on when she was so involved with somebody else. I just asked the I-Ching:

How did she take my message? 2 unchanging

Not a ripple?? but not that it really matters.

 

[ginnie]

"You only hurt the ones you love." That's a famous quote from English literature. I'm sorry you are suffering because of what looks like her thoughtlessness.

Many young women do indeed have more than one suitor just around the time they decide to get married. Several other hearts are bound to get broken, when a woman chooses one man to be her lawfully wedded husband. Yes, it does seem like a cruel process . . .

They say that giving a gift to someone who has hurt us will help heal the wound. So, when the time comes, buy them a nice wedding present . . .

The truth is that a wedding can be a very sad occasion. Maybe that's why people drink so much at weddings . . .

 

[edge]

love doesn't exist? What a depressing thought...I'm sure love exists but it doesn't stop us from being blind to the reality of a situation every so often!!! Maybe start asking more questions but please don't stop getting excited about love, the world would be a very sad place without it...
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[herrmyte]

All points very well taken. I do think she had feelings for me but he knew her first and longer plus he has a hot job and money now while Im only applying to medical school this year. And probably more. But thanks again for the replies it was very heartening. On to the new year...