After an argument with my husband

[Mylife]

After an argument with my husband (about him not being transparent with me when he goes out for a drink with his female colleague, which then leads me to paranoias and all sort of thoughts) we finally found a middle ground.
Which is: he should find courage to tell me the things he does and if I don’t feel comfortable with what he does, then I will ask him to work with me and make me feel comfortable, instead of hiding
In that way it will be a win-win. He will make me feel comfortable (for example organise a drink event and invite me to get to know the girl friend / colleague, or anything that I might need to feel comfortable) and once I am fine he will then go out with his female colleagues. So win-win.

And we agreed on this. He said he will make an effort and not be afraid of talking to me when he goes out with the colleague.
And he said he will also help me to feel comfortable (for example in regards to this current situation he is organising to meet all together). So we agreed in both things.

I asked the oracle 2 questions as a confirmation and to see how it sees our future in regards to this 2 topics.

1. Do you see if X will become more transparent with me in regards to his female friends? The answer was 49.2-43
It talks about abolishing the old and about eliminating the hesitation. Should I take that he will change and stop hiding (abolish the old) and become more transparent (eliminate hesitation)?

2. Do you see if X will cooperate with me in the future to make me feel comfortable about things when needed? The answer was 32.3-40. I am lost in here.
I don’t understand the 32.3 but I understand that we end up in 40 which is relief of tension and new cycle begins. Perhaps he will cooperate with me and the new cycle begins? I am not sure I understand the answer. Anyone can help me?

Thanks a lot

 

[Liselle]

49.2 - you have declared the nature of the regime in your marriage. Excellent!

32.3 - not sure, but maybe Yi's suggesting you "fix the omen" of the first reading. It's a really nice thumbs-up from Yi, you probably don't need anything else.

 

[Mylife]

49.2 - you have declared the nature of the regime in your marriage. Excellent!

32.3 - not sure, but maybe Yi's suggesting you "fix the omen" of the first reading. It's a really nice thumbs-up from Yi, you probably don't need anything else.

What do you mean by “fix the omen of the first reading”?

 

[Liselle]

One of 32's meanings, believe it or not, is "divination." 32 is also about Lasting. "A noble one stands firm and does not change his bearings," says the Image. Things like engraining habits and staying in orbit. So "fixing the omen" means understanding the omen and making it part of us. We can't do that if we give up too soon and ask another question. 32 wouldn't do that.

Of course that's just my best guess about yours, certainly not guaranteed to be correct.

 

[Mylife]

One of 32's meanings, believe it or not, is "divination." 32 is also about Lasting. "A noble one stands firm and does not change his bearings," says the Image. Things like engraining habits and staying in orbit. So "fixing the omen" means understanding the omen and making it part of us. We can't do that if we give up too soon and ask another question. 32 wouldn't do that.

Of course that's just my best guess about yours, certainly not guaranteed to be correct.

So in the context of my question if he will make me comfortable with the situation, how do you see it?
Should I look at the sentence below as he will not do it because the noble men don’t change his habits?
"A noble one stands firm and does not change his bearings”

And I still don’t know what an omen is sorry

 

[Liselle]

The omen is the message of the reading, the advice or guidance. Words like "good fortune" and "pitfall" are omen words.

I don't know what 32.3 might mean about your husband making you comfortable because I don't think it answered that question. I think it meant it already had addressed the whole topic at once with 49.2. You got across to your husband how this was and was not going to work ("your own day"), and he agreed. He will be transparent, he will make you comfortable, he will do what you asked.

Yi usually answers directly, though, so I'm not sure. But I don't have any other ideas.

 

[rosada]

Wilhelm’s translation of 32.3:
He who does not give duration to his character meets with disgrace.
Persistent humiliation.

I think this line is saying what terrible things will happen if he doesn’t keep his word - so I see it as meaning he wont be able to get away with anything. Ha!

But It could also be saying that YOU must be persistent in your character too and trust your new agreements will be kept . Don’t get all paranoid and suspicious until he doesn’t dare tell you anything for fear it will make you “uncomfortable”!

 

[Liselle]

Aha, there's a way it could be a direct answer.

 

[Trojina]

2. Do you see if X will cooperate with me in the future to make me feel comfortable about things when needed? The answer was 32.3-40. I am lost in here.
I don’t understand the 32.3 but I understand that we end up in 40 which is relief of tension and new cycle begins. Perhaps he will cooperate with me and the new cycle begins? I am not sure I understand the answer. Anyone can help me?

I think the 'shameful gift' is receiving something that's not truly yours nor freely genuinely given and so be careful not to force a certain response from him just to make you comfortable. You can't put the whole emphasis on being comfortable in yourself on him, there will be times you don't feel comfortable and he won't be able to change that perhaps.

Also, I do keep on saying it but you do not 'end up in 40' 40 is part of the answer it is not where you are headed. What's released in 32.3 ? duration of character and the letting go of 40 isn't so compatible with duration.

Also you already had an answer with this

1. Do you see if X will become more transparent with me in regards to his female friends? The answer was 49.2-43
It talks about abolishing the old and about eliminating the hesitation. Should I take that he will change and stop hiding (abolish the old) and become more transparent (eliminate hesitation)?

So it's a pretty good answer, a confirmation he'll do his bit.

You wanted more and more confirmation and I think Yi is telling when to stop with 32.3.

 

[Mylife]

I think the 'shameful gift' is receiving something that's not truly yours nor freely genuinely given and so be careful not to force a certain response from him just to make you comfortable. You can't put the whole emphasis on being comfortable in yourself on him, there will be times you don't feel comfortable and he won't be able to change that perhaps.

Also, I do keep on saying it but you do not 'end up in 40' 40 is part of the answer it is not where you are headed. What's released in 32.3 ? duration of character and the letting go of 40 isn't so compatible with duration.

Also you already had an answer with this


So it's a pretty good answer, a confirmation he'll do his bit.

You wanted more and more confirmation and I think Yi is telling when to stop with 32.3.

Hi @Trojina @Liselle and @rosada
thanks for your support. It means a lot to me

Just to clarify in case I didn’t came across clearly. I know written things sometimes are not really clear

Q1 is about if he will stop hiding things and be transparent with me and the answer was spot on and positive. (Often I get so positively shock when the oracle is so spot on - impressive)

The 2nd Q (the 32.3-40) is more about if he will do what I ask him to do in order to make me feel comfortable with his friendship with this girl for example.

Saying things to me is one thing. Acting on them to ensure that I m fine with the things he says to me, is another thing.

Example -
Q1- I made friendship with a girl A and after work we go for a drink or dinner alone just the 2 of us. This is happening every 2 - 3 weeks for example.
My Q was - will he be transparent on telling me things upfront and not hiding? And I understood the Yi saying that the old gets abolished and hesitation gets eliminated.

Q2 - At some point I will ask him to introduce her to me considering that they are having dinners and drinks alone and have a close relationship. I would feel comfortable with their relationship if I get to know her. So my question was on this point. Will he act and do what I ask in order to make me feel comfortable with their relationship?
And here, with this sort of Q in mind, I can’t understand what the 32.2-40 is telling me.

I hope I succeed to make it clear what I meant by “making me comfortable”

 

[Mylife]

Perhaps I need to ask the Q differently?

 

[Liselle]

It sounded like he already is doing that, if I understand this:

(for example in regards to this current situation he is organising to meet all together).

It seems like this is the next step, is that right? I'm not sure what else you could ask Yi right now.

 

[Mylife]

It sounded like he already is doing that, if I understand this:

It seems like this is the next step, is that right? I'm not sure what else you could ask Yi right now.

My Q is about the general attitude he will have for the future. Not now. Now we had an argument so obviously he will organise a meet up.
But my Q is about future events as a general attitude that he will have towards me.

 

[Liselle]

I guess you could ask that. "What attitude will he take towards this as time goes on?" or something.

You might be getting ahead of yourself, though. Maybe ahead of what can possibly be known, even by Yi.

Another option might be to ask how to handle your anxiety, because I do think it's understandable. Probably most people would be nervous and unhappy about their spouse doing things like this.

A reading probably can't take all the anxiety out of an inherently nerve-wracking situation, though.

 

[Trojina]

I really don't think you need to ask another question, more certainty cannot be gained that way. I stay with what I said in my last answers...I mean ask if you like but you are really disregarding answers in search of utmost certainty which you simply won't get from Yi casts. What will he do? Well you have had a good answer, he's a living being fluctuating and changing, nobody knows what he will do for sure, not even him but 49.2 is a very good answer to be working with. Pressing on and on for more certainty from him is 32.3, don't drive him into acting fake to keep you comfortable. If he's trying to work this out that's the main thing.

 

[Anne777]

I think it’s advising you to change your approach or he’ll become more “stand-off - ish”

 

[Mylife]

Thank you everyone for your support. It really helped me.