Asked for advice - got 61.1.3 to 57

[rounder]

Hello all, my first post.

I'm 'having an issue' with my wife. It's not that bad and not that 'sky is falling down' but it's very annoying. Since I was already familiar with Yi (used to have lots of fun in the past) I somehow remembered of this fascinating tool and decided to knock the rust off and start using it again and for good.

Instead of asking "what will happen ..." I took a different route and asked for advice: "What must I do and how to behave in order to regain harmony while not sacrificing my own dignity?" (Btw, was my question too complicated?)

Anyways, the answer was 61.1.3 to 57 and I'm not really sure what exactly I'm supposed to do.

 

[willowfox]

It suggests that you are far too involved with her and therefore when things go wrong then you feel it really hard, so the advice is to be much more self reliant and independent, and in that way, whatever she gets up to, won't affect you or your mood. So, you also need to be very patient and flexible in the way that you deal with her. A matter of you living your own life and doing your own thing otherwise if you keep concentrating on her actions it will only make you crazy.

 

[zhan1]

Hi Rounder,

This response appears to be reflecting your situation. The third line says "obtains an enemy"--sounds like there may be a little bit of hostility between the two of you. Hex 57 shows that there is some kind of subtle influence, perhaps something underhanded or suspicious has occurred. The commentary states that the situation is not appropriate, so whatever may have happened the oracle is confirming that this isn't right. Casting again will possibly provide more information as to the best path to take.

 

[Trojina]

Hello all, my first post.

I'm 'having an issue' with my wife. It's not that bad and not that 'sky is falling down' but it's very annoying. Since I was already familiar with Yi (used to have lots of fun in the past) I somehow remembered of this fascinating tool and decided to knock the rust off and start using it again and for good.

Instead of asking "what will happen ..." I took a different route and asked for advice: "What must I do and how to behave in order to regain harmony while not sacrificing my own dignity?" (Btw, was my question too complicated?)

Anyways, the answer was 61.1.3 to 57 and I'm not really sure what exactly I'm supposed to do.

I'd agree with Wfox, you have to decide for yourself how much influence she has in your life. You'll never be at peace if you react to her each and every mood. 61.1 shows someone who can find peace within themselves but not if they have to keep looking to another, and 61.3 someone who is very much influenced by another, doesn't say if this is good or bad just how it is. 57 echoes this theme of pervasive influence. If you want to retain your dignity and integrity then perhaps you need more seclusion or more centredness within yourself,to find peace within yourself...her peace is her problem you can't make harmony for her. I think the answer says to look to yourself decide if you want to be constantly buffeted by someone else moods etc.

 

[rounder]

Thank you all for your comments and clearing things up ...

The third line says "obtains an enemy"--sounds like there may be a little bit of hostility between the two of you.

Right now this is definitely true. Or more like, to rephrase the old joke, we're like broken TV: there's picture, but no sound Ummm maybe a little bit of sound but with bad signal-to-noise ratio.

... so the advice is to be much more self reliant and independent ...

... If you want to retain your dignity and integrity then perhaps you need more seclusion or more centredness within yourself,to find peace within yourself...

Sorta like cold shower, but spot on. Actually I feel a little bit guilty since it was me who started it but I still think it was the right decision at the moment.

And wow how blind I was the first time. I've just reread everything in light of your insights and now it perfectly makes sense. Thanks once again and props to Yi for being such a wonderful teacher.

 

[diamanda]

I'd also like to add here that 57 shows the process of how the male
approaches the female. So once you make sure that there are no
ulterior motives (61:1), and that you are not at the mercy of her
moods but keep your 'centre' within your own self, then a 57 will
be made possible again. 57 - "influence that never lapses", and
moves constantly and gently towards the same goal. It all sounds
promising!

 

[Trojina]

57 wind over wind...why is that like the male approaching the female ? Am i missing something...