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Is it possible to take it easy, and do other things you love and enjoy, while he is sorting himself out?
Why, because I love her too. I'm childless myself and it was a pure joy to have her in my life. She's a wonderful person. We've had a lot of plans to implement in this year, so I felt awfully as if I somehow betrayed her. Then some firend of mine suggested I could keep the contact with her. Which delighted me.
As for his need for a woman to be submissive, it may be strange but it's quite understandable, with his past experience. I'd say it'd be a great development for me to learn how to overcome my ruling nature. It's not erotic for me, to be a ruler, and there's no beauty in forcing my will outside a bedroom as well.
He owes you a full explanation of why it ended he can't just go on using you to make himself feel better about the fact that he has actually taken you out of your daughter's life.
I think people talking about his last wife being 'dominant' and 'controlling' is quite funny because she probably wasn't at all you can hardly go just by his description. She left him so he's more likely to be derogatory about her.
Why does it have to about who is ruling who anyway. I don't find it even faintly understandable that you have to kowtow to him because of his inadequacy as a man and I'm afraid to me he really does sound like quite an inadequate person still bitching on about his wife and leaving you hanging...but you know him so you know best.
You know it's just my vision of why he left me. He's been total gentleman with me, he served and tolerated, this is how he is. He's unable to express an attitude of "please do as I like" even closely. Still he's hinted it. I know his ideals of women, I know what disgusts him.
But you're right, he's weird and unexperienced in relashionship. Maybe he just used the chance of me being reachable in the dark times of divorce, I helped him to avoid loneliness as well as to handle his household. Now he's learned to do it all himself and maybe just wants to go free and have a taste of what it really means to be a single man of a prime years.
The question is how to free myself from him. Even if we'll come together in future, now the only way is to go on by myself.
I mean, since Yi suggests that to initiate further contact with him is to deny him the only thing he asks from me. I've taken a vow of silence (of not comminucating). For 2 weeks. For a start )
The question is how to free myself from him. Even if we'll come together in future, now the only way is to go on by myself.
It's funny sometimes when answering posts one gets a really strong impression of a person in the reading. I don't take these too seriously, I'm not that psychic or anything, but while I was just washing the dishes I thought 'he's spoiled, he was spoiled like an only child might be'. I wonder what his relationship with his mother was like given he seemingly has opinions about women as if they were some special breed of animal not human like him. Also I know the stuff I am coming out with about him isn't based on reality because you have the knowledge of the reality I don't. If he's been a gentleman that's good but for you just saying he needs space is very hard and it's going to make you question every aspect of your personality and wasn't very considerate of him.
Do you mean the 62.4 cast ? yes I think one really has to pay attention in 62.4, there's a reality there one has to meet and have full caution about. I think you asked how to help him but I think you are better thinking much more about how to help yourself. I think this line is a caution about simply going on as if nothing had changed.
My overall impression of you is that you are meeting this situation in a very calm and temperate way, in a 62ish way really taking things as they come
It's funny sometimes when answering posts one gets a really strong impression of a person in the reading. I don't take these too seriously, I'm not that psychic or anything, but while I was just washing the dishes I thought 'he's spoiled, he was spoiled like an only child might be'. I wonder what his relationship with his mother was like given he seemingly has opinions about women as if they were some special breed of animal not human like him. Also I know the stuff I am coming out with about him isn't based on reality because you have the knowledge of the reality I don't. If he's been a gentleman that's good but for you just saying he needs space is very hard and it's going to make you question every aspect of your personality and wasn't very considerate of him.
Do you mean the 62.4 cast ? yes I think one really has to pay attention in 62.4, there's a reality there one has to meet and have full caution about. I think you asked how to help him but I think you are better thinking much more about how to help yourself. I think this line is a caution about simply going on as if nothing had changed.
My overall impression of you is that you are meeting this situation in a very calm and temperate way, in a 62ish way really taking things as they come
Hex 50, Cauldron: "The superior man makes his destiny firm with a correct position." The cauldron also indicates spiritual transformation that leads to supreme good fortune; and you have the means for it.To the question "How I can help myself" I got 50.1.2 -> 30. I understand that I have to get rid of old spoiled stuff and full myself with new life, though the role of #30 is unclear.
Hi marybluesky, thanks for the analysis. So you see the second hex as how things would become if I successfully applied instructions given in lines. I could also think of #30 as Dependency, an unwanted condition where one is unable to live (to shine and produce luminance) without another (person or resource). Following this line of thought the whole cast can be also seen as transformation of a dependency...
But I'm quite unexperienced with I Ching. Having a technical occupation to make my living I definitely lack intuition and visual thinking. Will look at the cast and my current sutuation through your approach.
Hi, I hope you're right
Will read Hilary's post. It often so happens that event texts of lines of are ambiguous for me. For example I study someone's analysis that says line A speaks of this issue, I read it myself and cannot fathom how this conclusion is made.
Having a technical occupation doesn't mean lacking intuition. And different people can have different interpretations of the same reading: that's normal. Doesn't mean one is right and the other wrong. Others can help you, but at the end of the day, you must decide what to do with your life.But I'm quite unexperienced with I Ching. Having a technical occupation to make my living I definitely lack intuition and visual thinking. Will look at the cast and my current sutuation through your approach.
I do recommend the Foundations Course for a really solid grounding in interpretation skills. When you have these you won't feel so buffeted around by different people's views and can connect more directly with Yi. Well you can connect directly with Yi anyway, right now.
Having a technical occupation doesn't mean lacking intuition. And different people can have different interpretations of the same reading: that's normal. Doesn't mean one is right and the other wrong. Others can help you, but at the end of the day, you must decide what to do with your life
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).