Balancing research

[Yiaan001]

Hi to every One,
I asked to yi, how i can find my balancing.
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Losing the cognition of what is right for me .. my life seems to me stuck and I feel really sad at this time
An important relationship has ended badly, and I can not communicate with the people I have always been friends .. I'm reviewing everything myself but I really feel oppressed by the whole situation. I think I have to make a change but I can not understand how.

So yi ansewer me
47.3.6 44

I have clear the meaning of the moving lines but I can not find a solution for practicality. It lifts me to know that the oppression is passable, but I need to find a safe way to get back to balance and then to enjoy life ... thank everyone for any help on this reading !!

 

[canislulu]

Your feeling that you have to make a change feels accurate. In line six (47.6).... "With regret, setting forth, good fortune." This sounds like moving away from a situation. You have regret that the important relationship ended badly, but you are moving away from it. Is that correct? What are your options for making a change?

And in line 3, who or what is this "wife" you cannot see? I don't think it means a literal "wife" --- but a "partner" who can help you do what needs to be done. It may even be a part of yourself, i.e., an "inner wife" so to speak.

 

[canislulu]

Yiann001, I notice in a post from May 4th that you asked for an image of a relationship and your received H 28.2. Is this the relationship "that has ended badly"? I am curious when it ended. It could seem that 28.2 would be favorable for a relationship because it says, "venerable man gets a young wife," so in a way it is surprising that it has ended. But the overall advise of Hexagram 28 is "A noble one stand alone without fear, Withdraws from the time without sadness." If your relationship has truly ended then could it be that this breakup is an opportunity for you to develop an inner wholeness, i.e., an "inner marriage" of the masculine and feminine? That would speak to "balancing", would it not? You can balance the giving/receiving, inspiring/manifesting, yang/yin parts of yourself?

Are you in a time where you have outgrown a relationship and are finding your own wholeness to stand alone, or is there some chance of reconciliation in the relationship? Both readings, H28.2 and 47.3.6 refer to a "wife". What/who is the wife in this situation?

The advise for hexagram 47 is "A noble one carries out the mandate, fulfils her/his aspiration."

And I think that is what you are trying to discern in this situation when you mention wanting to find a practical solution. What is your "mandate"?

If your life is calling you to stand alone and carry out your "mandate", what is your mandate?
Perhaps there is something your heart wants to do for yourself and for the world and when you do that the friendships and relationship will come. Is there something you want to do that you may not have been able to do if the relationship had not ended? Is there something you want to do but aren't giving the idea a chance because you don't trust it or believe it is possible? Are you confining yourself in an unnecessary way? Perhaps you "do not see your wife" because you do not trust that you can support yourself in pursuing a hidden desire of your heart?

 

[Yiaan001]

My relationship ended in February after seven years, I've lived all over as personal bankruptcy. I'm facing the fear of being alone because I can only express myself in a couple. I'm a little isolated from the world and I find it difficult to relate. I have tried many times to relaunch the relationship but it is unsuccessful, she does not want to see me. My entire vito system collapsed in short. I feel a strong imbalance within me, in my life I feel that something is wrong, but this is because in the last year I also had a lot of work problems. The other hexagram 44 reminded me of the risk of coming back to a mental state of waiting for something that is no longer. I'm putting myself back on economics because I decided I would leave my home and my town for Move and look for my answers from another side but maybe i'm just run away from meselph.anyway thank you so much for your help !!!

 

[rosada]

Hexagram 44 warns about getting caught up in negative thought patterns and the importance of not giving energy to situations we do not want more of. In other words, to restore balance to your life you must not obsess about the past or what you feel is wrong now. Focus on what's going right! Also, the Image of 44 recommends getting out and moving about.
You mention you feel you cannot function well outside of partnership. 44 specifically warns against getting trapped in an unsuitable partnership which could also be seen as meaning any sort of committed relationship is unsuitable for you at this time. It's been seven years since you've been single - you know a lot more now than you did back then. Perhaps its time for you to experience that you can function well on your own after all!

 

[canislulu]

Perhaps your mandate is to leave your home and town and move. Have you asked about that? Do you know where you are going to go?