best way for my daughter 57.5,6>46

[philish]

Hi again, all!

This past week my husband and I agreed that the remainder of our counseling sessions would be used to construct a "narrative" for our divorce proceedings. So yes, we are agreed to divorce.

With that in mind and with the school year about to draw to a close, I asked the IC "What is the best way for my daughter this summer?" And got 57.5,6.>46.

This looks positive enough, but anyone out there want to lend me their thoughts?

Thanks!

 

[willowfox]

"What is the best way for my daughter this summer?" And got 57.5,6.>46.

The line suggests a new direction for your daughter is now needed but it cautions you to think very carefully about these new changes and how they will actually affect her in the long run, anyway chosen correctly they will greatly benefit her. The next line suggests that you keep her out of the divorce counseling procedures as she is not in a good position to deal with grown up stuff.

I was not sure what your question actually meant by "way", as it is so much more helpful when people who ask questions supply enough background for us to work with in order to find an exact answer. Sometimes intuition doesn't work.

 

[philish]

Yes...vague. I realised this after I posted the question and went to bed. Sorry!

I actually had two lines of thought with this question. Btw, she's six years old.

1. I'm concerned about the logisitics of negotiating summer school/camp, dividing and packing the "stuff" in the house, and preparing for new housing arrangements for her dad. I have been living with a friend since Christmas, and my daughter appears to like this arrangement, even though she usually sees me on weekends only. She knows we will be selling our house and moving, but I think she believes her dad will be moving to my place when the house sells. But it's difficult to talk to her about her perceptions because of her communication difficulties. She is very, very high functioning, but nevertheless on the autism spectrum (diagnosed at 18 mos, and MUCH worse then--in fact, a different child). A sensitive, intense child who struggles sometimes to process her emotions and communicate them, and who, paradoxically, loves new experiences and adventures.

2. Summer is also the time when we usually attempt to integrate a new treatment into her life (ie: yeast treatment, supplements, enzymes, etc.). It's easier to monitor the effects and less disruptive to regular routines. So I think I was also concerned about what treatment path we need to take this summer. (Yes! On top of everything else. I must be crazy.)

So far her father and I have presented only a positive face to this separation, and she continues to live most of the week with her dad, amongst her own toys, etc. We've given her no reason to panic, knowing that discord will trigger that reaction (as it would in most kids).

I think I need to refine my question. But does this help?

Thanks.

 

[philish]

haven't forgotten!

Will get back to you all with refinements on this question!

Thanks for your interest.

 

[Olga Super Star]

But you haven’t

 

[Trojina]

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