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Hi,
Here are my questions:
1: What can I do to feel better about the situation? 21 > 21
2: What will he do if I’m honest with him and I reveal ALL my feelings for him? 37.3 > 42
3: What will he do if I tell him I met someone? 11.3 > 19
4: Will he reveal his feelings for me if I tell him I met someone? 19.5.6 > 61
Here are my interpretations:
1: I think I need to be honest, get to the bottom of things and tell him how I feel about the situation.
2: I think there might be two possibilities:
A) He might have to discipline himself in order to stay faithful to his current relationship [37 line 3]. But he will end up making a statement in the end
B) He might have to use severity in order to make things clear that the feelings are not reciprocal [37 line 3]. He might not want to say it, but he will end up saying it [42].
3: I think it will hurt him a little bit. I think it will make him realize something. But he will accept the new situation because he knows things change and there is nothing to do about it [11 line 3]. However, I think he will make a comeback at some point or do something [19].
4: I think yes, he will do it.
Hi Lyrandra,
I liked your interpretation of the lines- from my perspective I think you got a good grasp (only new to i-ching myself ) of the lines and their meaning.
In my opinion- not wanting to judge your situation but the guy really shouldn't be looking/flirting with you if he is in a relationship (do you know he is for definite?)- remember if there is someone/others involved, be very careful/senstive in this issue- Act with integrety! not just for the others but for your own emotional wellbeing
But I think you are right to try and clarify your situation- 21! that will bring you peace, biting through the problem/issue. I think the lines are saying that he will not approach you with anything negative- but I don't think he will confess love either- I think from this reading he will allow the situation between you to continue. Its just my feeling he will accept and possibley act friendly (perhaps a little more) instead. So I don't think your situation will actually change drastically- I think the flirting may increase more- if thats your intention.
I wouldn't test him though with the i'm seeing someone else thing, by the looks of line 37.3 you mustn't be too severe and you musn't be all giggly "i love you, its ok your in a relationship" in your approach with revealing your true feelings. By not being too severe and not being too lacks you'll get the increase your after I think.
Be clear about your boundaries with him I think and reveal your true feelings but don't be too severe in your limitations with him- do you know for definete he's actually in a relationship? Seeing this from an outside perspective- he could be a good guy who likes you, he may have just ended a relationship or is dating casually & might like to see you? Or he could be in a relationship and therefore shouldn't be flirting Hmmm you definetly need to investigate this!! (21)
An interesting situation, if he wasn't in a relationship I'd say go for it on this reading. Do you definetly know he is in a relationship? Did he tell you this himself? Or did you hear it through the grapevine and it could be just rumours?! If you know for concrete definite he is in a relationship be very cautious- and like your 21 says investigate- bite through the issue with him! If you don't know for definite there would be no harm in telling him how you feel and asking if its true he's in a relationship? & state clearly how you feel about that (avoiding being harsh but not saying its ok either)- thats what I'd do I think in your situ!
Also the fact you just like him at this stage and its only emailing and flirting- bite through the situation first don't allow it to progress untill your sure about the whole thing. Yes I think you should probably Clarify the relationship thing and and let him know how you feel in my opinion.
So I agree with your interpretation.
Good luck with this x
Ps. if the two of you are emailing that will give you a good opening to address the issue with him without making a huge scene in a comfortable space. Easier than facing him face to face and also less embarrasing if he doesn't feel the same you could just brush it off. But Since you see him a lot I'd try and keep it friendly. I assume you see him at work? that will make your life easier I think- best to cover all bases!
He might play a game, you’re right. That might be what [37.3] refers to. It’s quite possible. I honestly didn’t see it that way because, to me, the outcome [42] was good. But, then, maybe I shouldn’t see [42] as something necessarily good. I had a few problems with that reading.I would think carefully before revealing your feelings to him. He may well simply regard this as a workplace flirtation, and i think that is what the 37.3 refers to. He is the one laughing and dallying but without serious intent. You need to bite through to the truth of the situation (21) but it seems to me you have nothing to go on if he has made no actual moves to you just looked (sometimes). Also what you descibed as him sometimes acting like he cares, sometimes not, is just typical game playing. If he is interested he will make a real move like ask you out or something. Thinking that if you tell him you have met someone will make him reveal his feelings to you seems really convoluted logic to me and probably not a successful ploy
I like your thoughts on [37.3]. That’s another point of view that I didn’t see. And it’s true that I’m really impulsive. I take it as a good advice. I think it refers a little bit to what Pink said: I can reveal my feelings, but I should be careful.Yes, 21 presents an old sticky situation, something you really have to chew through. What can you do to feel better about it? Chew your way through it. Getting down to the brass tacks of it may make you feel better..
Line 3 in hex 37 advises being strict. It may be indicating that you will be better off in the long run that you discipline your impulse to tell all. Not that you should not talk to him, as that may be part of the 21 for you, just that you may want to wait a bit and temper your impulses before taking any action.
I have found line 3 of 11 to be a bittersweet line, a consolation, and sometimes a challenge. I would see the 19 as the context of this question, which is your approach with your feelings and information.
19 5 & 6 changing? I don't know. He may , he may not.
Sometimes with a series of questions like this, by the end, I just look at the general gist of the two hexagrams. I would see 19 to 61 as a theme of the open heart approaching ( is how I would see it). Some say that by the time the Approach gets to the 6th line, the influence is passing, 'it is too late' and I have found that to be true.
No, I didn’t. I guess I just wanted to see what would have been his reaction. I don’t think I really wanted to use that option. I was curious, but I definitely think the best way would be to reveal my feelings.Sorry--just for clarification--did you actually meet someone else?
The answer to this question is probably somewhere in your other postings but reading only this thread, it is hard to tell. If you have taken up with another person in order to stimulate his interest, or perhaps a confession, I'm not sure either 11.3 or 19.5.6 will do the trick.
My brother got those 19 lines once asking a not-dissimilar question, and nothing ever came of it (as of this writing--I think that was three or four years ago). He liked a girl who seemed to be involved with someone else and, despite her flirtation with him--and his own interest--he never pursued it; his courage was no match for outward appearances.
Hi, Lyandra,
I am not trying to solve the lines you were given because I hardly trust my talent to that, I keep driving myself crazy with my own readings. But just from the experience of life I have, a guy that looks and sometimes emails and is in another relationship is nothing but a way to have your heart broken. Do not let it happen!
Lyrandra,
I'm not going to interpret your readings either as I think that the others have done a wonderful job at that, but I will give you some advice. If I were you, I would NOT tell this guy in an email how you feel about him (even if it is to get it off of your chest), trust me - unless he is absolutely blind, deaf, and dumb then he has at least some clue (probably a big clue) about how you feel already. You sound like you are trying to do the right thing but I think that you should do the right thing by yourself and file this experience away as just that...an experience.
Ask yourself - would you really want this guy if all it took for him to dump his girlfriend was for you to write him an email telling him your feelings after a mild office flirtation? Please value yourself more than this - I went through a terrible experience myself a few months ago, it is not worth it to drive yourself crazy doing readings about this when someone wonderful and perfect is out there waiting for you but you won't see them if your focus is on the guy at the office. This was kindly meant.
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).