Closeness & Affiliation

[ginnie]

For many years I was involved with a certain group here in NYC. (This is a different nonprofit organization than the one I mentioned in an earlier thread.) I am wondering if I should get re-involved with this group, now that the national leadership has changed hands. I really have a burning need for some kind of affiliation, because I literally see nobody at all on a weekly or monthly basis.

I asked:'Is the 'new R' my group?' The answer was 8.2.6 > 59.

I see so many different interpretations of that top line moving in hexagram 8. Seems like it can mean a lot of different things?

W/B says: "If we have missed the right moment for union and go on hesitating to give complete and full devotion, we shall regret the error when it is too late."

Other interpretations say that 8.6 means there is "no leadership," which in this case is also true.

But despite the lack of national and even local leadership, these groups do continue to go on. In fact, I would hate to see them die out, because I feel they are extremely valuable in the life of the community. In the perception of other members, I am the person holding these groups together. That's very draining, as I don't have much if any tangible help from other people with the burdens of this. Sometimes I get mad that that's the way it is. It's a secular group and what I can say is limited by that.

Any help at all would be very much appreciated.

 

[meng]

Hi Ginnie,

What I see here is a classic conflict of A type personalities. There is the nature to guide, lead, even to take over direction of the organization, or at the very least to have a free hand and voice in the group, while at the same time finding it difficult to really feel at one with the group, as in being dissolved into the group.

You may be familiar with the saying "it's lonely at the top"? So either being on top must be diminished or the desire to meld with the group must be diminished.

Of course there are compromises, such as serving on a committee or such, but even within a committee the Alpha nature faces the same challenges.

 

[gene]

ginnie

Line 2 is telling you, on one level at least, to examine your motives for being part of the group. Line six can be about hesitating, and if that applies to you, to examine yourself as to where the hesitation comes from. What is it you are really concerned about. Hexagram 59 can sometimes be about the dissolution of one group in order to form another group in a different context.

This probably doesn't answer your question, but perhaps it gives you something to think about.

Gene