Complicated relationship

[Inbalski]

Hi I am in a challenging relationship with a guy who keeps giving me mixed messages. One moment everything is platonic between us the next he starts touching me and wants to kiss me , than we have sex but he doesn't kiss me . We hang out alot these days and when I got angry and wanted to leave because he didn't want to kiss me he was upset that I would have sex with him and then just leave so I tried asking him why he does that and he didn't give me a clear answer ​

There is a very strong attraction between us and that is the main reason for me staying to see if he will be again more consistent with his affection like he was when we first met...
So i asked the iching what is the best advice i Can receive about this relationship and got

53.3.4.5.6>16​

I also asked what is the potential in this relationship and got
11.1.2>15

Finally I asked what will happen if I were to tell him that if he wants me in his life he will need to show me with love and consistency that he cares about me and invest more in me and got 32 unchanging.

I would really appreciate your help with interpretation.
Thanks
Inbal

 

[ontheroad]

32 unchanging.....nothing will change. It will stay the same as it is now.

Walk away. If he's really interested he'll pursue you. If he doesn't the relationship was never going to be what you wanted.

 

[Trojina]

Finally I asked what will happen if I were to tell him that if he wants me in his life he will need to show me with love and consistency that he cares about me and invest more in me and got 32 unchanging.

You ask about consistency and get 32uc! Yes, be constant to your values - he can either treat like a human being or leave.

It's hard to imagine why you would continue with this guy - he won't kiss you, leaves straight after sex and won't say why? Any onlooker would say he's just using you for sex, that's why, it's no mystery surely? The fact he won't kiss you is really off - an avoidance of intimacy. It is hard to imagine why you would allow yourself to be used like this but I guess it's because he used to be much nicer.

So yes - of course tell him that. What's the alternative? To go the way of 32uc here is the way to go. His choice - you know what you want, good solid answer

What I like about 32uc here is how well it fits with our words here

Finally I asked what will happen if I were to tell him that if he wants me in his life he will need to show me with love and consistency that he cares about me and invest more in me and got 32 unchanging.

32 has to do with things becoming consistent through daily life, incorporating things into your life. The best relationships are part of your life, your daily life - not a million miles away in a whole separate section of your life. You're saying you want consistency, him to be a proper part of your life, to invest. This is correct for you. And who knows he may respond well to what you say and if he doesn't well you cannot go on being treated like that.

 

[Inbalski]

Thanks for the reply
I was the one wanting to leave after the sex because he didn't kiss me and it was painful for me and he was insulted by the fact I wanted to go and asked me to stay.
Yes I understand why you are asking yourself why I am still there, first I am becoming stronger in myself and what I want, second I am learning how to communicate in difficult situations without losing myself and last because I know there is something really good that can envelop between us if he will stop being afraid.