confused 31 > 46

[precision grace]

Hola compadres

I've got another one for you 31.2.4.5 > 46

Yes, it's about a guy Sorry.

Backstory: Recently met this guy, and he is really nice and when we met it seemed that he liked me too (either as just a nice person to meet or maybe 'liked' liked, not sure, but I felt good vibes)

Haven't seen him since and kept wondering when I'd run into him again. So today, suddenly, on an impulse got up to get a drink from the cafeteria when he's there. First I saw him in the corridor as I was walking towards it - smiled at him - nothing. Then was in the queue behind him, again tried to get his attention with a semi smile so I could say hello - again - total blank and what's worse, I am standing there sensing some Super hostile vibes coming off this guy. I've tried to think back to when we last spoke if I'd said something that could have annoyed him (very likely) but I really don't know what it might be, so I asked Yi what was the cause of the hostile vibes and got the 31 changing to 46.

I think it's trying to tell me something but not sure what. It's all about being influenced and/or not allowing external factors to influence us etc. Maybe I misread the 'vibe'? I had exactly the same experience with another guy last year and it confused the beejesus out of me; I'd never experiences such defensiveness from a person before, just for being there in the same time-space as them..

I never know how to interpret changing lines in 31 so any help you could give me would be great.

:bows: and also

 

[foxx777]

From what I could glean from your description, something definitely went awry, and yet this translation would appear to say it can go well again?:

31. Being Affected

Line 2:

Affecting the calves.
Misfortune.
Staying put brings good fortune.

Not being called into action by a genuine influence, but just by anxiety or some impulse.(you actually used the phrase, "on an impulse" in your post above)-- Things will not go well if one acts. It is better not to react to this and stay put. Things will go well then.
(could it be that he sensed you went to the cafeteria "looking for him", and the time was just not right? too soon, or he was upset about something else?)
Line 4:

Persistence brings good fortune, aversion goes away.
Wishes, wishes, come and go.
Companions follow your intentions.

Having wishes. By making a decision and sticking to it, people can actually go with what you want. Then things will go well and aversion will go away.(you need to perhaps really try and connect with him in a robust way, not just bump into him?)

Line 5:

Affecting the back muscles,
without aversion.

Being affected by something one can count on, and that one doesn't dislike.
(When the back muscles are activated, one's posture becomes more straight. This is a sign of being energized.)



Hexagram is changing to:

46. Advancing

Advancing.
A foundation for progress.
It is useful to see a senior person.
Do not worry,
going South brings good fortune.

Advancing. This situation helps progress. It is useful to get the help of someone who is knowledgable and experienced. There is no need to worry, things will go well. ( sounds like there is some real potential and hope that there may be something genuine between you after all ! )

 

[precision grace]

thanks foxx777,
you say could it be that he sensed you went to the cafeteria "looking for him", and the time was just not right? too soon, or he was upset about something else?

which is interesting because 'the impulse' was almost as if I was hearing his thoughts wondering if I was coming down for tea, or 'willing me' to come down for tea and when I did show up, he looked startled. So if he really did think that, I can imagine it'd be a bit of a shock that it 'worked'. Although, of course, the sensible interpretation was that he was upset about something else. The only weird thing is that I had no intention of going for tea until the 'sudden impulse'.

I don't understand you need to perhaps really try and connect with him in a robust way, not just bump into him?) what do you mean by that? I can't even be sure that I want to connect with someone unless they let me know by their behaviour (when I do bump into them) that they are interested in getting to know me. Anyway, right now I actually just hope I hadn't annoyed him by something i had said.

 

[foxx777]

thanks foxx777,
you say could it be that he sensed you went to the cafeteria "looking for him", and the time was just not right? too soon, or he was upset about something else?

which is interesting because 'the impulse' was almost as if I was hearing his thoughts wondering if I was coming down for tea, or 'willing me' to come down for tea and when I did show up, he looked startled. So if he really did think that, I can imagine it'd be a bit of a shock that it 'worked'. Although, of course, the sensible interpretation was that he was upset about something else. The only weird thing is that I had no intention of going for tea until the 'sudden impulse'.

I don't understand you need to perhaps really try and connect with him in a robust way, not just bump into him?) what do you mean by that? I can't even be sure that I want to connect with someone unless they let me know by their behaviour (when I do bump into them) that they are interested in getting to know me. Anyway, right now I actually just hope I hadn't annoyed him by something i had said.

I guess I was thinking maybe to have an actual face to face, such as going out for dinner with the purpose of talking. But what do I know? You know, I have had the odd experience of feeling "called" to someone, only to have that person be resistant, as if they were in conflict with themselves.

 

[precision grace]

heh, I am not going to ask this chap out, no way. Apart from anything else, I wasn't born with a gaydar (if I had a dime for every time I thought there was 'something' just to find out the guy is gay) ...

 

[foxx777]

heh, I am not going to ask this chap out, no way. Apart from anything else, I wasn't born with a gaydar (if I had a dime for every time I thought there was 'something' just to find out the guy is gay) ...

 

[ginnie]

I have had the odd experience of feeling "called" to someone, only to have that person be resistant, as if they were in conflict with themselves.

That's a paranormal thing. 31 is about mutual influence. You can bet that if you're feeling something, then he's feeling something, too. But 31 does not always bring pleasant feelings and sensations. It's also the hexagram we might get when we have pain; e.g., a toothache. I'm not saying he's thinking of you as a pain. Just that such subtle experiences can bring very mixed feelings.