Could It Be Love

[MariaP]

Around three months ago, I met a man to whom I felt strongly drawn. I have encountered him around ten times since then as we belong to the same community. Every time I meet him, I experience increasingly strong feelings.

I encountered him two days ago, and have been unable to forget him. I feel as though I might be falling in love with him, but that makes no sense whatsoever? I dont even know him, although I have learned his first name.

I asked the I Ching about him yesterday and got H6, which I interpreted as a fluke.

This morning I asked:
What is going on between me and George?
H23 unchanging?

Could I be developing feeling for him?
H6 unchanging?

Yikes.

Any comments.

 

[Hans_K]

Hi MariaP,
The question is whether the answers you have received are about feelings for this man or the situation in which this plays out.
When you look at the answer from the situation you are in (i.e. everything that wasgoing on before you met this man) does it become clearer?
H23 is the end of a process, here the yang line in the 6th position is pushed out of the hexagram, so to speak, by the remaining 5 yin lines. This is also about letting go (of control) because collapse is inevitable.
This does not have to be something negative, by the way. When you are going through a difficult period, H23 is a relief, that process has come to an end.

H6 is about not fighting the battle.
Is this perhaps a battle with yourself? Would it be a problem if you developed feelings for this man?
Maybe not really explaining your answers, but maybe you can do something with it.

As always, take what resonates and leave the rest

 

[my_key]

Hi MariaP
I'm kinda walking along the same path as HansK here. Falling in love is a very personal experience and this person constantly being in your mind or having strong feelings when you meet does not necessarily indicate just this. These questions seem to indicate confusion about what you are feeling and a wary approach being adopted. Love at first sight is often something that transcends wariness.

This morning I asked:
What is going on between me and George?
H23 unchanging?

23 indicates that something doesn't quite sit right for you in this situation. Is his presence in your life reminding you of other people are experiences that have evoked caution in you before? 23 is underpinned by the energy of 2 'Responding' which moves matters along a track which will bring nourishment and nurturing into this situation through eliminating the less healthy elements that are currently in residence. Their has to be a yielding and openness to seeing deeply into these encounters to gain insights into what is going on between you.

Could I be developing feeling for him?
H6 unchanging?

It seems, from your post, that you have already developed feeling towards him. You are just unsure what those feelings are. 6 asks for you to be clearer about your feelings - exactly what they are; what they mean to you and even to appreciate what is at their root and how they will serve you now and in the future. Consider what inner or outer world actions will serve you in this situation and which will not?

6 indicates, in the judgement, that at the moment there is a truth in this that is blocked and so you are right to be cautious. 6 is deeply guided by 37 ' Household' which directs matters towards a scenario where a higher degree of alignment between words and deeds exists. Ignoring better understanding this matter will in the end lead to misfortune. However, whatever the outcome, there is much for you to learn that will be beneficial in resolving your conflicted feelings and thinking, by venturing down this road of enquiry.

The truth needs to out and only you hold the key to unlocking what that truth is.

... or there may be other interpretations that resonate with you more deeply.

Good Luck

 

[rosada]

Do you know enough about this person to know if he is single? These hexagrams -23. Collapse and 6. Conflict - suggest to me that whether or not you are developing feelings for this person the whole idea of a relationship is a non-starter.

 

[Liselle]

I asked the I Ching about him yesterday and got H6, which I interpreted as a fluke.

I'm curious why you thought that - ?

Considering that you got 6 again later, it probably wasn't a fluke. And anyway, here's what 6 says:

'Arguing.
With truth and confidence, blocked.
Cautious and centred, good fortune. Completing, pitfall.
Harvest in seeing great people.
No harvest in crossing the great river.'

That could be advice for how to proceed: there's some blockage of truth or confidence; the best way to handle that is not to push hard for resolution. "Completing, pitfall."

Good fortune is by being cautious and finding some center - maybe your own center, maybe a middle-ground way of getting to know him.

Your feelings might be real enough at the moment - we don't have feelings for everyone we meet, after all - but they might not hold up when you actually get to know him. That happens a lot, too.

 

[MariaP]

Hi MariaP,
The question is whether the answers you have received are about feelings for this man or the situation in which this plays out.
When you look at the answer from the situation you are in (i.e. everything that wasgoing on before you met this man) does it become clearer?
H23 is the end of a process, here the yang line in the 6th position is pushed out of the hexagram, so to speak, by the remaining 5 yin lines. This is also about letting go (of control) because collapse is inevitable.
This does not have to be something negative, by the way. When you are going through a difficult period, H23 is a relief, that process has come to an end.

H6 is about not fighting the battle.
Is this perhaps a battle with yourself? Would it be a problem if you developed feelings for this man?
Maybe not really explaining your answers, but maybe you can do something with it.

As always, take what resonates and leave the rest

Please forgive my extremely tardy response! I guess things changed quite radically for me, so I lost focus. Also, I don’t know how to navigate this site very well. Also, I never check my email. Also, I’m always surprised when anyone answers my questions. I’ve got to up my positivity and optimism. Anywho…Thank you for this verrrryyy enlightening answer. So grateful! Of course you’re right. Something(s) is ending! But it’s been taking such a precious long time to do so. Nevertheless, it’s all coming crashing down.

 

[MariaP]

Do you know enough about this person to know if he is single? These hexagrams -23. Collapse and 6. Conflict - suggest to me that whether or not you are developing feelings for this person the whole idea of a relationship is a non-starter.

I agree. The man is so beautiful and sweet tempered, I think it’s impossible that he is single. You are a wonderful asset to this website. I appreciate you so much. Thank you.

 

[MariaP]

I'm curious why you thought that - ?

Considering that you got 6 again later, it probably wasn't a fluke. And anyway, here's what 6 says:

'Arguing.
With truth and confidence, blocked.
Cautious and centred, good fortune. Completing, pitfall.
Harvest in seeing great people.
No harvest in crossing the great river.'

That could be advice for how to proceed: there's some blockage of truth or confidence; the best way to handle that is not to push hard for resolution. "Completing, pitfall."

Good fortune is by being cautious and finding some center - maybe your own center, maybe a middle-ground way of getting to know him.

Your feelings might be real enough at the moment - we don't have feelings for everyone we meet, after all - but they might not hold up when you actually get to know him. That happens a lot, too.

Your comment is very illuminating! I feel influenced to interpret my readings more thoroughly in the future. I realize I should be reading the judgment, but I almost never do! Thank you for this insight.

Getting involved with an extremely attractive man can be draining. Everybody wants him. You attract competition. I’m looking for a less challenging situation.

Can I share with you what I’ve recently discovered about Hexagram 6 and love? There are people who contend for love. Or who approach love through conflict. This is a thing. There are many conflictual approaches to love. Some of them are quite despicable, but are nonetheless very effective. It’s not something I have ever thought of employing.

One example is trauma bonding. There are many « love relationships » based on this phenomena. Or when a man entangles s beautiful but possibly vain woman by exploiting her vanity or thirst for competition with other women etc. And the list goes on.

For me, the benefit of all these recent troubling emotional upheavals is increased self-awareness.

So grateful for the generous and warm-hearted responses on this amazing website. Blessing to all those who so kindly reached out to help.

 

[MariaP]

Hi MariaP
I'm kinda walking along the same path as HansK here. Falling in love is a very personal experience and this person constantly being in your mind or having strong feelings when you meet does not necessarily indicate just this. These questions seem to indicate confusion about what you are feeling and a wary approach being adopted. Love at first sight is often something that transcends wariness.



23 indicates that something doesn't quite sit right for you in this situation. Is his presence in your life reminding you of other people are experiences that have evoked caution in you before? 23 is underpinned by the energy of 2 'Responding' which moves matters along a track which will bring nourishment and nurturing into this situation through eliminating the less healthy elements that are currently in residence. Their has to be a yielding and openness to seeing deeply into these encounters to gain insights into what is going on between you.


It seems, from your post, that you have already developed feeling towards him. You are just unsure what those feelings are. 6 asks for you to be clearer about your feelings - exactly what they are; what they mean to you and even to appreciate what is at their root and how they will serve you now and in the future. Consider what inner or outer world actions will serve you in this situation and which will not?

6 indicates, in the judgement, that at the moment there is a truth in this that is blocked and so you are right to be cautious. 6 is deeply guided by 37 ' Household' which directs matters towards a scenario where a higher degree of alignment between words and deeds exists. Ignoring better understanding this matter will in the end lead to misfortune. However, whatever the outcome, there is much for you to learn that will be beneficial in resolving your conflicted feelings and thinking, by venturing down this road of enquiry.

The truth needs to out and only you hold the key to unlocking what that truth is.

... or there may be other interpretations that resonate with you more deeply.

Good Luck

These are wonderful clues for exploring the possibilities. I believe that the man and I were aligned somehow, that our paths were crossing fortuitously, that the possibility to become friends/lovers was popping up.

I strongly feel that 23 relates to my residency in that city/community where I was the blatant victim of unprecedented cruelty and injustice that has never been addressed by law enforcement or anybody in power.

The day I wrote this question, was one of the last days I spent any time in that city, a place where I been stepped on and defeated anyway. It’s been quite a while since I’ve been back. I’m going there today, just for an hour or so. But 23, crumbling and disintegration of what was my comfy home for quite a bit. So, I won’t be seeing him as I stroll about or whatever as I no longer live there. As for Hexagram 6: I think the I Ching is saying “Girl, you have got way bigger problems on your hands!”

Hexagram 6 is the conflict associated with my life in that city, where a large group of people were warring on me, to take me down utterly, destroy me entirely, where I was subjected to attempted rape but the police refused to even investigate the psycho-predator because…?

It’s crazy, but I think the I Ching was picking up on that overwhelming energy of disintegration and warlike conflict coming against me. I strongly feel that it placed my attraction to George in that context and asked me to focus on the bigger picture : the seriousness of the danger I was in as long as I was walking around in that city. Get out, Maria! You’re in danger, girlfriend!