Could use some help

[newlife]

Hello all,

I divorced with my wife 8 months ago (she left me) and moved out on my own. The relationship ended very badly and we no longer on in contact. I still have a lot of unresolved feelings inside. This is a person I was with for 20 years. She was my first and only partner straight out of highschool.

The last year and a half and especially the last few months have been really tough for me. I am constantly attacked by anxiety and depression. I always feel hopeless and fearful. Recently I have been learning I Ching in order to help me understand what kind of patterns and energies are shaping myu world but alas, I am still very new and have a lot of trouble understanding it all.

Today I consult the I Ching about how I should deal with my feelings concerning my past and my feeling about my ex-wife and this is what i got 32.4 > 46.

Can anyone give me some understanding? The changing line is especially confusing...

Thank you.

 

[orchardrose]

My interpretation would be to try to transcend your feelings through acknowledgement and release, realizing that dwelling on them will do nothing. The past has passed, and now is the time for you to quietly relinquish it and look toward the future and your own endeavors. With effort and acceptance, you should be able to move forward and advance on the path which was intended for you.

 

[newlife]

Thank you orchard,

But doesn't the line indicate an more or less fruitless or hopeless path?

 

[bamboo]

agree with orchard. the 32.4 indicates that focusing on the ex is futile, because what you seek is not there. but the 46 suggests transcending , leaving it behind , and moving into new brighter pathway rising up.

so the way to deal with your feelings now is to acknowledge that there is no game in the field and come to terms with it. then the way is open to rise into new territory. anxiety and helplessness come from resistance, and may be also a part of grieving process. Accept your grieving and cry... but remember 46 is very hopeful for the trend of your life from here

 

[ilemacedonia]

Working on self - that is the key.
Working on self - that is the only thing that is Durable.
You're looking something in you that you didn't have notice before (you didn't know that it exist) The whole outward situation is mirror to look into your self.
Examine your life.
Examine the whole situation from their beginning till now.
How I feel about this?
Why we were together at first place?
Why the relationship ends?
Why I have these feelings?
There's nothing in the field, everything is inside.
Keep looking.
Peace?
Is this that you're looking for?
Love?
Yes, all that is Durable.
But how to find them?
Look deeper. Look inside.
There's nothing in the field, everything is inside.
But why? There must to be some reason?
Search deeper. Look deeper. There's something deep inside.
Should I call him/her? Why should I? Why I want to call her/him?
Should I not call him/her? Why I shouldn't?
Look and acknowledge every emotion, every intention, every little thought.
That is the Way, I don't know for other way.

Your Guide is in You

 

[newlife]

I want to thank those who have or plan to respond.

Though I like the last post it kind of tells me to just look into myself.