Difficulty Forming Intimate Relationships

[silent octavius]

Question: "Why do I have difficulty forming intimate relationships?"

Answer: Hexagram 28 with lines 1,3,4,5 changing into hexagram 19.

I'm having difficulty interpreting this answer. Any insight would be welcome.

 

[Trojina]

At a glance, very briefly, you are putting far too much emphasis on perhaps doing it 'right', as if you were taking too much care and it's exhausting for you. You cannot go on in such a state of tension so may prefer to be alone.


You may need to let go of some tensions and be more comfortable with knowing that you don't know (yin change pattern is 4). Hex 19 as relating suggests to me you will be getting some help with this excessive tension you feel. Something helps you to take it all much more lightly, as a learning experience that you needn't be perfect at. I don't know what that might be but I think it's on it's way to you Make it all less of a big deal and if you are young enjoy not knowing at all how to make intimate relationships but not minding the mistakes too much.

Overall I get the impression there is too much perfectionism or focus or tension around the whole area. No wonder it isn't easy. Something comes along as guidance with this (hex 19) allow yourself to be led by inklings towards new growth.

 

[TygerChild]

Let go and let it flow more. I think you are too focused on achieving your desires, and too rigid in your expectations. Try to relax and be more receptive to others in little ways, and build on that.
Mick jagger: 'you can't always get what you wa--ant'.
But sometimes it comes to you when you stop pushing for it.