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The noble one reduces the many to increase the few,
She weighs things up to even out their distribution.'
I asked iching 'will my bf come back to me' because we are taking a break after a huge fight and I got 8.3.5. I was looking up the meaning for those lines at http://www.iching123.com/8_text.htm, and 8.3 says:"The one to be intimate and interdependent with is not the right partner" I am wondering if that means my bf is not the Mr. right? Will the situation change over time? I mean maybe he will become the right person? 8.5 sounds quite positive. I am really confused. Could anyone please give me some thoughts?
Hi Star123,
I'd do nothing ! He's not the one if you ask me ! You hold to the wrong people ( person ) . This is what I get from the hexagram.
As for the flirting online..is he really? Or do you only think he is? Can you know for sure he's flirting or talking to his Auntie Barbara? But not being flippant - do you really know he's in there to flirt?
I'm old. It's taken me so so so so long to learn to WAIT !
If you can wait in peace and be happy going around doing what you do, then when he shows up again, because I feel he's very likely to ( that's when you're going to use the line 5 ), you'll be able to S L O W L Y assess the situation and S L O W L Y see if he's actually good enough for you and if you can be bothered with him !
Softly softly catchee monkey.
And you mightn't even want to catch him after you've softly softly slowly had a good clear look at him.
I'd be interested to see how this goes !
8.3 "We are often among people who do not belong to our own sphere. In that case we must beware of being drawn into false intimacy through force of habit. Needless to say, this would have evil consequences. Maintaining sociability without intimacy is the only right attitude toward such people, because otherwise we should not be free to enter into relationship with people of our own kind later on" (Wilhelm)
"The people in the environment of your inquiry are not right for you at this time. Avoid too intimate an association with the group while maintaining an outward sociability. Appearing committed to these people could darken your reputation later on" (Wing)
"Be careful to whom you give your support" (Huang).
"Receiving this line means that we are off the path, or that we are approaching a situation in which we will be tempted to revert to an incorrect attitude.
" 'Wrong people' often refers to wrong elements in our attitude, as when we abandon a firm attitude for one that is indulgent...." (Anthony)
It's hard to put a happy face on this one. Looking ahead to the resultant hex (15), we see Modesty:
"The mountain wears down to become the plain. This is the image of modesty -- a state of becoming -- an attitude of patient conscientiousness in trying to do what is correct. The hexagram counsels us to rid ourself of ostentation (the heights) and to develop our character (fill in the depths). Ostentatiousness often refers to indulging in some form of justification because we distrust following the truth" (Anthony).
Hi star123
People here have discussed different ways of understanding 8.3. For me it hasn't signified 'bad' people, just following in a way that doesn't serve your best interests. In any case, imo 8.3 shows your ex keeping close to wrong thoughts (either you are wrong for each other or he misjudges things, or both).
8.5 is a rather impersonal line if you ask me, while in 15 people 'weigh things and make them equal' in order to 'carry them through' (Wilhelm's Image and Judgement respectively).
I'd say that things are at a standstill and will remain so since it seems a mutual decision (15). If any of you wanted differently you would have taken action accordingly.
I also like a lot what chloe says in her post about taking your time to assess things before deciding anything.
take care
i think hex 15 is the context, your focus is to look for the 'one' which is going to put a strain on the relationship until you get married or feel he is the 'one' in some other way. I get this from the image.
So in terms of you focussing on being with the 'one' you are standing by this man with false intimacy, 8.3...as elias has already outlined and quoted. Or maybe you are seeking union with this person without giving your all and this could be because you dont feel (deep down) that connection which is what you are ultimately looking for, but only you know the answer to that.
8.5 is the age old advice "If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they're yours; if they don't they never were." (google tells me Richard Bach said this)
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