Does he love me? 1.3>10

[solivini]

I little background context:

I have been off and on with a guy for 12 years. This latest time, it was 2 1/2 years. I have come to realize that he has commitment problems, and because I am a counselor (like, a literal clinical mental health counselor) I understand the ins and outs of the human condition. I am an existentialist and a philosopher, so I am a deep thinker.

I feel this reading says: that he works all day (he is a Capricorn, very involved in his work) and then at night, when things slow down, he is on alert for what crapstorm is going to hit him next.

Do I feel in my heart that he loves me? Yes I do. But he has so many issues. He is constantly on alert.

My question for you, my dear Iching clarity community, is what is the question I should be asking? I feel like I am not objective enough to ask the Yi the right questions, so I'm wondering what sorts of questions should I ask. Then, of course, I will return to tap into your infinite wisdom for clarity, since I am obviously far too emotionally invested to see clearly.

I don't think I will ever convey the appreciation for what this community has contributed to my spiritual knowledge. You are all such insightful and wonderful people, and I really just have so much gratitude for your existence.

If it is not too much trouble, I would love for one or more of you fabulous people to consider lending me a hand.
I want to do the right thing by myself and this community. Therefore, if you feel you are able to help me work through is mess and give me insight, please message me so that we can chat. Even if you are trying to sort your way through figuring out Yi, I will gladly contribute.

Again, thank you all so much for your contributions.

 

[goddessliss]

Hi solivini, Line 3 says you've got an ambition is to sort him out and this is dangerous....meaning you're not listening to your inner voice on this.
Hex 10 talks about your 'tiger' being a part of your personality that is forceful!!

 

[Sixth Relative]

I'd recommend this dialogue:
a) What is the current situation ofr the relation between X and I?
b) How is my position within the relation with X?
c) How is X's position within the relation with me?

Normally, these 3 questions would give you a clear Navigation Chart. You can ask a fourth one, asking for advice on how to act.

Best wishes

 

[rosada]

Yes and no.

 

[Trojina]

it's the way you deliver it....perfect

 

[Trojina]

My question for you, my dear Iching clarity community, is what is the question I should be asking? I feel like I am not objective enough to ask the Yi the right questions, so I'm wondering what sorts of questions should I ask.

I think the quest for objectivity when consulting Yi is a false one. Yi addresses your consciousness, you bring your inner meaning to it and understand your answer on an intimate personal level. Therefore you are always best placed to understand your answer although ideas from others can be helpful too
But as for suggested questions maybe a question with you in it ?

Along the lines of your best approach to this relationship now ? Your prospects in the relationship ? Maybe even 'what do I need to understand now about this relationship ?'

The main thing is to put you in the question somewhere. Oh and give Yi room to answer by a more open question than the yes/no question.

You say you are a philosopher and existentialist so do you question what you actually mean by 'does he love me ?' What does that mean ? Is there a switch in the brain whereby love is turned on or off ?

I don't recommend trying to discover his feelings through the I Ching but it may be helpful to discover the viability of the relationship through some questions with you in them and of course through these questions you will inadvertently get an idea of his feelings anyway.

 

[solivini]

I'd recommend this dialogue:
a) What is the current situation ofr the relation between X and I?
b) How is my position within the relation with X?
c) How is X's position within the relation with me?

Normally, these 3 questions would give you a clear Navigation Chart. You can ask a fourth one, asking for advice on how to act.

Best wishes

Solid advice. Many thanks for this format.

 

[solivini]

Yes and no.

Lol exactly

 

[solivini]

I think the quest for objectivity when consulting Yi is a false one. Yi addresses your consciousness, you bring your inner meaning to it and understand your answer on an intimate personal level. Therefore you are always best placed to understand your answer although ideas from others can be helpful too
But as for suggested questions maybe a question with you in it ?

Along the lines of your best approach to this relationship now ? Your prospects in the relationship ? Maybe even 'what do I need to understand now about this relationship ?'

The main thing is to put you in the question somewhere. Oh and give Yi room to answer by a more open question than the yes/no question.

You say you are a philosopher and existentialist so do you question what you actually mean by 'does he love me ?' What does that mean ? Is there a switch in the brain whereby love is turned on or off ?

I don't recommend trying to discover his feelings through the I Ching but it may be helpful to discover the viability of the relationship through some questions with you in them and of course through these questions you will inadvertently get an idea of his feelings anyway.

I think you're right concerning objectivity.
It was a very useful reminder to put myself in the question, and to not try and gain access to another in this way. This is something I always try to keep in mind, but it never hurts to get a refresher.

Thank you so much for your thoughtful response and suggestions.

 

[Tim K]

I have 2 ideas about this reading

1) An advice to avoid over-thinking (.3) on your part. And just follow the usual path(10, although it does show a loner)
2) 10, viewed as two trigrams, shows electrical wires hanging over the lake/bath.
Those wires sure do love water, but the contact with them brings not only the electrical current but also pain. Dangerous indeed. The amount of pain depends on the voltage but something is not right of course.
In 1 both trigrams are equal, electricity and electricty, 2 of a kind, a good pair (maybe boring but still); but in 10 they are not compatible.

All in all, yes but this relationship is going nowhere and can/will hurt you.