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It is true what you said and agree with you. I will ask the oracle what to do next.Well, my translation says:
The influence shows itself in the back of the neck. No remorse.
And the various commentaries point out that when you change direction, it is the neck that moves first. So, is he swiveling his head to look at this woman? Some attraction to her? From what you said, he almost certainly does feel some attraction to her. But that's a long way from saying that he "wants to be with her." Possibly he has sexual fantasies about her. Possibly she feels the same way. People, even those in committed monogamous relations, do often feel little pangs of sexual attraction. It doesn't mean they act on them or even get to the stage of planning to act on them.
There's a sticky somewhere on this forum about asking relationship questions. From memory, it advises against asking what other people think. Lots of good reasons for that, one being that people often don't really know what they think, they just do. After they've done it, if they are confronted about it, they might retroactively look back and try to work out what they were thinking at the time. After all, even if the Yi could tell you what he's thinking, what does that do for you? What do you do next? Just feel bad? You can't really go to him with a reading from the Yi and confront him about it, can you? And whatever it says, will you feel certain? Will you feel that the issue is resolved?
So, perhaps, if you feel the need, it might be a good idea to consult and ask, not what he thinks or feels or is planning to do, but what you should do.
Personally, if it were me, I'd tell my partner that I didn't like the idea of her going out for drinks after work with one person with whom she exchanged flirtatious messages, that it made me uneasy. And that I'd be grateful if she didn't. If she didn't listen and dismissed it as ridiculous, I'd ... feel unhappy. Even if she thought it was ridiculous, I'd like it if she said, okay, if it upsets you, I'll make sure we aren't alone together. That would show care and attention for my feelings.
A drink after work it is not inappropriate to me. But so many drinks after work for 1.5 year and always keeping me distant not wanting me to meet her, that is inappropriate to me. Then not only I don’t know this woman well but I find flirty joking sms which is hurtful to me6. Says the rights and duties - the rules of the relationship - should be worked out in advance. So you two need to decide is a drink after work with a colleague inappropriate? I think it comes down to your first answer: 62. Attention to Details:
Who paid for the drinks?
If they each paid their own bar tab then no harm, no foul.
If he paid for the drinks he owes you a diamond bracelet.
Hence I asked the oracle if those flirty sms means his intention was to actually try to seduce her to be with her or those were just joke flirt with a dead end? And I got 31.5-62This has been going on for a year and a half and he doesn’t want you to meet her?
He owes you gd chandelier!
Can I have a go anyway?How do you see this advice? @rosada and @Trojina can help me on this reading please?
Thank you @IrfanK very helpfulCan I have a go anyway?
Wilhelm:
Progressing, but turned back.
Perseverance brings good fortune.
If one meets with no confidence, one should remain calm.
No mistake.
That sounds to me like you may be rebuffed if you try to meet this woman. As for the prognostication ... well, they are tricky things. "Good fortune" doesn't always mean you get what you want. Perseverance in this context might mean being steadfast, holding firm, in your dealing with the situation. And remaining calm. Not necessarily because it will solve the problem, but because it's the best thing to do, even if there is no good solution.
You did say you knew the woman. Well, if she's a good friend, you have every right to contact her. Although you might meet with "no confidence." But ... the 'other person' in these situations is not really the relevant factor, it's your partner. You don't need to resolve things with her, but with him! The most likely outcome of such a meeting sounds to me like it would be either incomprehension, because nothing is happening, or feigned innocence and injury, followed by a hasty text message to your partner, and then an explosive and unhappy discussion between you and him.
You know the old line about infidelity not being the problem, but the symptom of the problem? Well, you must have a feeling about how solid your relationship is with your partner, regardless of this intruder. Again, my feeling is that if it's solid, he'll at least listen to you and treat your concerns seriously. If he doesn't, it doesn't bode well for the future, regardless.
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).