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My family is dysfunctional. I get no respect, affection, love or gratitude for whatever I do for my wife and two daughters.
There is no emotional or physical connect with my wife and yet bound by my own sense of duty, I continue to play the role of a husband and father. I fulfil all my obligations. But I am not happy at all and feel the urge to escape to freedom. I long for a lady companion who could be supportive and loving but have no such option on the horizon. So that led me ask the question: Does my marriage relationship have a future?
I am posting my reading here and would request help from learned friends here to help me in the interpretation.
How are you building inner and outer relationships into a home?
What kinds of growth does this environment support?
A woman's constancy is fruitful.'
The old Chinese character for 'home' shows a pig under a roof. A home is where people rear a pig together, sharing wealth, work and value. People in the home cooperate in their shared space and invest in it together (as in a family, workplace, school of thought or culture), and within the structure it provides they can recognize and understand what is valuable.
To create a successful home, you need to have the constancy of a woman. Steadily, over time, your work creates a space in which all can grow freely into their natural form, and find their place and their connections with others. You allow space for new things to enter and grow, becoming part of the whole inner ecosystem. You keep the space for living in.
A noble one's words have substance and her actions are consistent.'
'Injury on the outside naturally means turning back towards the home, and so People in the Home follows.'
Opposing means outside. People in the Home means inside.'
Regrets vanish.'
Regrets, danger: good fortune.
Wife and child giggle and giggle.
In the end, shame.'
Who are you when no-one is noticing?
Noble one's constancy bears no fruit.
Great goes, small comes.'
Nothing moves or grows, communication doesn't happen, everything is negated and blocked – and this is because of 'non-people'. That may mean that some people are a consistently, exclusively and pathologically negative influence and sabotage all attempts at progress. It can also refer to perceiving someone as not quite a real person, explaining their behaviour with labels and stereotypes rather than seeking to understand. In both cases, there is a complete failure of empathy. This means that your very best and strongest efforts come to nothing. You can have a soaring imaginative concept of the creative possibilities here; you can have the will to be true to that concept and carry it through. You're not doing anything wrong; the problem is that these creative possibilities are just not available when things are Blocked. Small concerns dominate. The adaptive response is not to strive constantly to rise to a higher level, but to focus your attention on the small details – the immediate, uninspiring reality.
A noble one uses his strengths sparingly to avoid hardship.
He does not allow himself honours and payment.'
'Things cannot end with flowing together, and so Blocked follows.'
There is no emotional or physical connect with my wife and yet bound by my own sense of duty, I continue to play the role of a husband and father. I fulfil all my obligations. But I am not happy at all and feel the urge to escape to freedom. I long for a lady companion who could be supportive and loving but have no such option on the horizon. So that led me ask the question: Does my marriage relationship have a future?
I am posting my reading here and would request help from learned friends here to help me in the interpretation.
does my marriage relationship have a future?
Your reading resulted in the following hexagrams:37 | 12 | |
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Hexagram 37, People in the Home
Key Questions
Where are the boundaries of the 'home' you inhabit?How are you building inner and outer relationships into a home?
What kinds of growth does this environment support?
Oracle
'People in the home.A woman's constancy is fruitful.'
The old Chinese character for 'home' shows a pig under a roof. A home is where people rear a pig together, sharing wealth, work and value. People in the home cooperate in their shared space and invest in it together (as in a family, workplace, school of thought or culture), and within the structure it provides they can recognize and understand what is valuable.
To create a successful home, you need to have the constancy of a woman. Steadily, over time, your work creates a space in which all can grow freely into their natural form, and find their place and their connections with others. You allow space for new things to enter and grow, becoming part of the whole inner ecosystem. You keep the space for living in.
Image
'Wind comes forth originally from fire: People in the Home.A noble one's words have substance and her actions are consistent.'
Sequence
People in the Home follows from Hexagram 36, Brightness Hidden:'Injury on the outside naturally means turning back towards the home, and so People in the Home follows.'
Pair
People in the Home forms a pair with Hexagram 38, Opposing:Opposing means outside. People in the Home means inside.'
Changing Lines
Line 1
'With barriers, there is a home.Regrets vanish.'
Line 3
'People in the home scold and scold,Regrets, danger: good fortune.
Wife and child giggle and giggle.
In the end, shame.'
Line 4
'Enriching the home – great good fortune.'Hexagram 12, Blocked
Key Questions
What work can you do when nothing is working?Who are you when no-one is noticing?
Oracle
'Blocking it, non-people.Noble one's constancy bears no fruit.
Great goes, small comes.'
Nothing moves or grows, communication doesn't happen, everything is negated and blocked – and this is because of 'non-people'. That may mean that some people are a consistently, exclusively and pathologically negative influence and sabotage all attempts at progress. It can also refer to perceiving someone as not quite a real person, explaining their behaviour with labels and stereotypes rather than seeking to understand. In both cases, there is a complete failure of empathy. This means that your very best and strongest efforts come to nothing. You can have a soaring imaginative concept of the creative possibilities here; you can have the will to be true to that concept and carry it through. You're not doing anything wrong; the problem is that these creative possibilities are just not available when things are Blocked. Small concerns dominate. The adaptive response is not to strive constantly to rise to a higher level, but to focus your attention on the small details – the immediate, uninspiring reality.
Image
'Heaven and earth do not interact: Blocked.A noble one uses his strengths sparingly to avoid hardship.
He does not allow himself honours and payment.'
Sequence
Blocked follows from Hexagram 11, Flow:'Things cannot end with flowing together, and so Blocked follows.'