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This line shows someone who keeps on pressing for more information/clarity/confirmation and Yi says that brings shameSo, first of all I asked to Iching "How to evaluate this situation (that has created between me and The Beautiful Guy)?" And got 57.3 leading to 59.
Line 3 speaks about someone who isn't able to act and is stuck in their thoughts!... Yeah, pretty accurate! We dispersed the chance to get closer
Well generally it looks to be a situation of loss, it's not very promising. It's apparent from 57.3 you might be reading too much into it in the first place hence in pursuing it you set yourself up for a painful experience. Line 5 often has to do with social connections/networks being of benefit so I could say you could try to get his attention through other people. I don't know how that works on social media but in the old days that would be talking to the friends of the guy you were interested in to find out if he's free and also to make sure he gets the message you are interested. Things like that - posting on a thread or platform he is likely to be reading, maybe connected with the event you both attended? Making yourself quite prominent on any thread connected with that?"What if I try to contact him trough social?" 23.1.2.5 to 61.
The relating hexagram really is not how anything ends. That is the biggest misunderstanding, the most misleading idea ever propagated about understanding Yi answers. The relating hexagram is the context/where you are in relation to the issue which can include past present and future. Also you have one line changing making that line pretty important here.Is there a possibility to connect with him in some way? 2.6 leading to 23. The conflict between the dragons. The conflict between mind and heart? Ending in 23, it couldn't look worse, right?
I'm very grateful for the wisdom and the advices you shared, dear Trojina. You analyzed the situation very well through the lines...This line shows someone who keeps on pressing for more information/clarity/confirmation and Yi says that brings shame
'Pressing penetration, shame.'
So it's not that someone can't act it's just they aren't satisfied their action is enough or they think there is more to uncover or understand. So in answer to your question it looks like a classic case of over thinking/over penetrating, trying to uncover what the meaning of those looks were and Yi is advising you to stop. The reason for the shame is fairly often that you already have your answer so why press more. Maybe those times he turned away were your answer and maybe you already know that?
Well generally it looks to be a situation of loss, it's not very promising. It's apparent from 57.3 you might be reading too much into it in the first place hence in pursuing it you set yourself up for a painful experience. Line 5 often has to do with social connections/networks being of benefit so I could say you could try to get his attention through other people. I don't know how that works on social media but in the old days that would be talking to the friends of the guy you were interested in to find out if he's free and also to make sure he gets the message you are interested. Things like that - posting on a thread or platform he is likely to be reading, maybe connected with the event you both attended? Making yourself quite prominent on any thread connected with that?
However Yi aside here the quickest easiest way to find out if he is interested is to contact him through social media if possible isn't it? That way at least you won't be thinking about him you'll know if he is interested or not. One can hold back too much because of what one thinks Yi is saying but in this case what's the worse that can happen? He could ignore you or reply.
The relating hexagram really is not how anything ends. That is the biggest misunderstanding, the most misleading idea ever propagated about understanding Yi answers. The relating hexagram is the context/where you are in relation to the issue which can include past present and future. Also you have one line changing making that line pretty important here.
If things are left open (hex 2) endlessly (at line 6) with no directions chosen then you can end up in that horrible frame of mind of 'what if's' which is torture and leads to losing both possibilities.
Personally in your shoes I'd decide (43) whether he was giving me enough indication on that day he didn't want to pursue it. You looked back at him enough and that likely was enough signal to him but he didn't take it for whatever reason. Are you going on pressing and pressing even though really you have your answer ? If so that would be the 57.3 and the shame for you is you can embarrass yourself. Mind you I don't think embarrassing oneself is huge on the scale of things, I don't think we can live in real life connection with others and the world without embarrassing ourselves most days ...but here it's not that you are doing something wrong, but that you have decided to miss the signals and keep pressing OR it could even be you have your answer that he is interested and you are looking into it too much rather than acting. However the 23 answer wasn't great and also mostly I think it's better that he approach you (which may be old fashioned but still) after all he was there looking at you so why isn't he pursuing you? Is that your answer?
So going back to what I'd do in your shoes with these answers. I'd try to feel out what the over penetration was that I was doing in 57.3. If I still felt confident there was a good vibe going on I'd decide (43) I would contact him on social media - whilst fully aware this could be pretty painful and could be quite a loss for me (23) nonetheless I'd be acting according to the truth of my perceptions(61).
However intense our perceptions can mislead us and that could be what's happening here - but maybe it's worth exploring anyway? Potential between you? Well 4 has to learn through actual experience and moreover one cannot be too harsh on oneself for not knowing ahead of time if things will work out (4.6)
2.6 sounds a bit also like missing one another, wrong timing on the day but it could also be fighting within yourself over what to do. So why not just try and connect with him and see where it goes but be prepared you might get hurt.
But at this stage it won't hurt too much will it as you don't know him. It won't feel great if he ignores you but surely it's better than not knowing. You could just send him something connected to the event - no idea what the event was - but maybe something light hearted, a joke or video and ask him how he enjoyed it and so on. He isn't someone you know is he so you don't have to face him. And if you are shy and feel 57.3 is about your shyness then maybe that is encouragement to reach out rather than spend much time agonising and repeatedly probing.I will think about taking action or letting it go (as I don't want to get hurt, maybe it's what I will do)
The eye contact, 58.1.....the turning away 58.4 and 59...it describes the situation.Well, I kept eye contact with a really fascinating guy during an entire event, I was so sure we liked each other... but every time we had a chance to get closer, something made me or him turn the head and lose the opportunity.
I decided to send a simple short friendly message, but without a friendship request, I realized then, that maybe my PM ended in the very useful message requests folder that nobody ever checks!But at this stage it won't hurt too much will it as you don't know him. It won't feel great if he ignores you but surely it's better than not knowing. You could just send him something connected to the event - no idea what the event was - but maybe something light hearted, a joke or video and ask him how he enjoyed it and so on. He isn't someone you know is he so you don't have to face him. And if you are shy and feel 57.3 is about your shyness then maybe that is encouragement to reach out rather than spend much time agonising and repeatedly probing.
58.1.4.6>59 I don't know how he feels of course - I get from this an impression of him quickly scanning the room, looking for pleasure and connection and equally quickly letting it go. But that's what most people do perhaps on a night out when they are single? I also get the idea, like you he was weighing things up....maybe many considerations going through his mind. The 59 sort of blew it all away. Also you don't know this man at all right? So how can he have actual feelings for you if he doesn't know you. He clearly liked the look of you but apart from that what other feelings could he have yet?
Actually you know that reading sounds exactly like this you described
The eye contact, 58.1.....the turning away 58.4 and 59...it describes the situation.
I think you should reach out. If it doesn't work out it won't be long term hurt just a bit of, well, just a little sting. Also you may feel empowered and proud of yourself for breaking your pattern of shyness.
Well 63 is an act already done - already decided really. There's no real problem with the communication other than the back and forth hesitation in line 3 which you already went through.Asked for an advice about sending it and got 24.3.5 to 63. The comments left me confused. About both lines, LiSe suggests returning to one's essence and truth whatever the risk, the shame and the common sense!
Dear Trojina, again thank you for your insight and your time!The 5 answer is most likely advice to you in this time of waiting. It shows you feeling vulnerable and unsure in lines 1 and 2 and totally freaking yourself out in line 4. Line 4 says 'get out of the pit' which is here that horrible place of mental torment, don't stay in that mental place. Yi is saying to you quite strongly to relax now and try to enjoy this interim time whilst the message reaches him. I think you should assume the message is where it needs to be but you must stop worrying now. 5 is an instruction on how to wait for things and it says to eat and drink and listen to music as if you didn't have a care.
Well 63 is an act already done - already decided really. There's no real problem with the communication other than the back and forth hesitation in line 3 which you already went through.
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