family issues..

[meganj]

what do i need to do ( for my family)? 15.1.5.6>37

my mom is going through a rough time right now and im not sure what i can do to help her.. a year ago we lost my younger brother and she is still having difficulties.. she doesnt want to let go, shes going through menapause on top of all this and my dad has not been supporting her like he should..

this is a very frightening situation because not too long ago she asked me to be guardian of my younger sisters and brother.. i feel shes really losing control of her life, actually i know she is because she has developed a reliance on alcohol.. i really dont know who she is anymore she wont talk to me.
i have reached a point where i dont really know what to do.. she is a stubborn woman and wont listen to reason..
im reaching out on here because my family isnt helping and im just sick of it.

 

[g77777]

Hi M,

It is obvious that you care very deeply for your family. I am fairly new to writing interpretations so I am hoping you receive a lot of responses.

Hexagram 15 here I think could be named COMPASSION. With compassion...

>Don't be afraid to take charge (line 3) of the situation. Sounds like you are the only one who is in the right space to do so, so step up to the situation.

>Attend to all matters in a detached, decisive efficient way--avoid getting bogged down by yours and others emotions as much as possible (line 1). In other words, don't ask, get on and do what needs to be done.

>Pull yourself together and use the idea of do what you would want others to do for you if the roles were reversed as a guideline (line 6) or rule of thumb for all your actions and decisions. This will help you with the above.

G7

 

[g77777]

Added note: hex 15 also would indicate taking one issue at a time, being measured unlike the intensity of hex 16. This would also suggest doing things in a way as not to overwhelm you or others.

 

[Trojina]

what do i need to do ( for my family)? 15.1.5.6>37

my mom is going through a rough time right now and im not sure what i can do to help her.. a year ago we lost my younger brother and she is still having difficulties.. she doesnt want to let go, shes going through menapause on top of all this and my dad has not been supporting her like he should..

this is a very frightening situation because not too long ago she asked me to be guardian of my younger sisters and brother.. i feel shes really losing control of her life, actually i know she is because she has developed a reliance on alcohol.. i really dont know who she is anymore she wont talk to me.
i have reached a point where i dont really know what to do.. she is a stubborn woman and wont listen to reason..
im reaching out on here because my family isnt helping and im just sick of it.

Great answer ! I agree with g7777. You have all it takes to deal with the situation...fairly forcefully if need be. Use the practical sturdy side of your nature and be confident that here you actually can help. Ever read Cold Comfort Farm...its also a film...its a comedy set in the 30s but it just reminds me of a girl going into a house full of disorder and one thing at a time sorting things out.

Its no comedy your poor mum lost her son last year, or you a brother and for that I am very sorry. Its about the hardest thing for a mother to lose a child...and it was only a year ago., and for you too of course.

I have to say I feel this is describing what you can and will do....somehow, so I feel your answer is in a sense quite full of praise for you. You are able to do whats needed ...and don't be too shy about doing what you think needs doing. If you think your mum is falling apart this answer is probably telling you you are right to recognise it to be concerned about to act on it...in whatever way seems best. If your mum asked you to be guardian of your younger brothers and sisters she must be seeing the 15 qualities too

 

[meganj]

Yeah.. I honestly dont know if I have what it takes to take care of 4 kids..
the oldest is 17 but needs special care, she had a kidney transplant 4 years ago so she has doctor appointments, must keep a healthy diet and take care of herself specially, take pills on schedule etc.
The youngest is almost 12, then there are the twins both 14. I am almost 25 but dont feel quite ready or am unsure of this responsibility.. I have to go back to school in the fall.
So right I am praying for the strength to carry this through. I knew this would happen though for over a year so its no surprise, just a bit anxious.
I have a pretty good relationship with them though so they know they can always depend on me for support.

oh i just recieved a text right now from my sister, my nephew and youngest sister got into a hockey clinic/ camp in may!!

its things like this that give me the strength i need to go forward. I know this is the right decision and they deserve happiness and to be proud of accomplishments.. theyve been through alot.

nows the time to start preparing and making decisions, and of course school is a major priority for me, not only do i believe they deserve a fresh start somewhere else i believe it is really needed in order to get away from negative influences and open them up to new opportunities and dreams without worry.


would edmonton be the appropriate place?
63.2.3>60

right now im trying to decide if i should apply for school in the fall in the city. my family doesnt live out there so im not quite sure.. I see it as my only option though considering that is where i really need to be.

 

[meganj]

63.2.3>60 --- I think it may not be, but damn I don't wanna stay out here
ahh I guess if what's best for them is to be here then I can but I don't see how it would be considering all that's going on for them at the moment.

Ugh I feel like my head is going to explode from an overload.
I'm having a hard time trying to just digest it all, along with my breakup of course.